(Closed) Sweetheart Table or Head Table?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Do/Did you prefer a sweetheart table or a head table?
    Sweetheart Table : (108 votes)
    66 %
    Head Table : (55 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I’m planning on a head table, mainly because it means one less round table; I’m having a hard time fitting all my guests in the main dining room as it is, with the number of tables.

     

    Another reason is that I don’t feel comfortable being the center of attention, so this way, I can lean over and talk to my Maid/Matron of Honor or our Best Man.

     

    And the most selfish reason? Please don’t tell my bridal party: I don’t want to give them +1’s. Only 2 of my bridal party have long term SOs, and one of them is a friend of our family and won’t mind being seated with my MOH’s parents. The other is a girl I have never met before in my life, and this groomsman already said it was fine if it was just him attending the wedding. The other guys have already set a bet on if they’re allowed +1’s, whose date would have the biggest t*ts. No thank you.

     

    Post # 18
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m doing kind of a head table, more of a big family table. Our parents and our bridal party dates can be included and we won’t feel like we are on display while eating. 

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I wanted a sweetheart table, but my Fiance was completely against it for tradition reasons. And then it led to the problem that head tables in the UK are different than here. Basically, we are having a massive head table that includes our parents and bridal party. I feel bad about splitting people from their dates, but I’m not willing to argue about it anymore with Fiance.

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t like the head table as it feels a bit on display.  I  also don’t like sweetheart tables as I want to spend the meal being socialble with friends and family.

    We are just having a round table like everyone else but it’s slightly larger and will have a slightly more fancy table center (possibly).  I like that idea, it’s still a special table because we’re on it but also still sociable.

     

    Post # 21
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    1008 posts
    Bumble bee

    I only like a head table if the SOs of the bridal party are seated there too.  I feel that if you need to split up couples to have a head table, you should have a sweetheart table instead.

    Post # 22
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    Newbee

    I was recently in a wedding and had to sit at the head table while SO sat by himself. I basically sat there for all of 20 minutes while eating, and then didn’t sit there again.

    Based on that experience, I think a sweetheart table sounds awesome.

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We are probably doing a sweetheart table because a head table would be really complicated based on who is in our wedding parties.  They all have husbands, wives and kids, and I don’t feel comfortable separating them. 

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    We had a sweetheart table for us, an immediate family table, and a bridal party table. The best man was also immediate family, so the numbers worked out with him sitting with family, and the bridal party sitting with their own dates.

    Well, in theory. I guess I didn’t clarify the tables to those people, because they all sat wherever. My immediate family table for 10 only had 4 people at it, and the best man sat with the bridal party… my in-laws randomly decided to sit across the room, and a groomsman had to sit somwhere else because the bridal party table was full. Ugh. Lol.

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My Fiance and I will have a head table at our wedding, but because we only have 3 attendants on each side, we’ll be able to include our attendants’ significant others.  

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We are doing a sweetheart table, just because i know that we most likely wont be at our tables alot, i see the time to eat is for us to go around and thank everyone and get a chance to say hi to everyone since we dont want to do a recieving line, and i dont want the memebers of my wedding party to have to sit up there, i want them to be able to sit with their wifes or boyfriends and enjoy themselves.

    Post # 27
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    We had a sweetheart table. I actually don’t thnk I’ve ever been at a wedding with a head table. It’s just not done in my culture. Although I get people’s rationale that they feel it’s anti-social, they want to be able to talk to other people besides their Fiance, etc., on the day of the wedding you are SO busy rushing around, being greeted by people… You basically get a chance to talk to everyone BUT your fiance – or new husband/wife. The sweetheart table is a perfect time to let other distractions melt away and focus on your new husband or wife. Besides, you don’t really do much actual conversing as the bride during dinner, so it’s nice to just sit with your SO and not have to worry about making any conversation with others. 

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Sweetheart table all the way! 

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I hadn’t even really thought about it, I think we are just going to mingle in with our guests.  From what I’ve heard, you don’t really get to sit down and eat anyways.

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I hadn’t even really thought about it, I think we are just going to mingle in with our guests.  From what I’ve heard, you don’t really get to sit down and eat anyways.

    Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I hate head tables.  4 out of my 6 bridesmaids are from out of town and they’re bringing dates.  What fun is it for the BM’s and their guest to be seperated all night? Yuck. The reception is all about the party, and people being happy and enjoying themselves. Would you like to be that guest stuck at a table with strangers all night? Not me!

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