(Closed) Sweetheart Table or Head Table?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Do/Did you prefer a sweetheart table or a head table?
    Sweetheart Table : (108 votes)
    66 %
    Head Table : (55 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 32
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We had head table and I wish we had a sweetheart table so I coul have room for my dress. Some of my bridal party had another half that I said they could sit with so they weren’t alone. It wasn’t too important to me, I let them choose 

    Post # 33
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t like sweetheart tables but I will likely have to have one due to my venue layout. 

    That said, the only time I’ve seen them the couple ends up really segregated from their guests which I don’t like.  

     

    BUT I also hated being at a wedding where FH was a Groomsmen and I had to sit a table of people I didn’t know (which especially bugged me because I knew several people at the wedding but the couple chose to seat me with strangers – and a girl I sort of knew from high school but hadn’t seen in about 6 years).

    Post # 34
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    Busy bee

    Not a fan of either. I think the bridal party should mingle with their dates and the other guests during the reception, and I want to be able to sit and eat near my parents, siblings and in-laws; this will likely be one of the very few times that both families are together so I don’t want to miss an opportunity to nurture those relationships.

    Post # 35
    Hostess
    2555 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Sweetheart table.  The majority of our Bridal Party will be bringing dates and though some of them will know others at the wedding, some will not.  I really didn’t want them to feel awkward, so my Bridal Party will just sit at regular tables during dinner while my Fiance and I sit at our own.  🙂

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee

    For the longest time, I thought head tables were something that they only did in movies so that the camera could get an angle without the back of anyone’s head.

    I guess it makes a photographer’s job easier, though.

    Post # 37
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve nothing against sweetheart tables, but I’ve gotta say, OP has posted the best possible photo of a sweetheart table, and a photo of the worst possible configuration for a head table!

    Post # 38
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    1341 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @lina010:  I personally HATE head tables. For one, I think it’s the bride and groom’s, not the bridal party’s day. Two, according to my background, the bride and groom are supposed to be treated sort of like the king and queen of the day, so it’s kind of foreign to me to have a head table.

    Also, I can understand a head table when most of the bridal party is single, but if they are attached and/or have brought a date to the wedding, it’s super awkward for them to be at one table and their date to be at another.

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had a head table but included our wedding party’s dates/spouses. We had a small wedding party though so the table topped out at 8 I think.

    Post # 40
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    525 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had a head table – the two of us, and our wedding party. Only half of our wedding party had dates, and they sat at tables with the rest of our guests. We all had a lot of fun! We were telling stories, joking around, etc. We got up in between courses to visit the tables, and while we were up, our bridal party sometimes got up. Nobody minded being separated, and good times were had by all!

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    We’re doing a head table. Mainly because I haven’t even heard of a sweetheart table until the bee. Head tables are the norms here. 

    Also, dates never sit with the bridesmaides/groomsmen here. They always sit with the other guest at a table with their friends/people that they know. 

    Post # 42
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We had a head table, but it doesn’t matter… You’re going to be there for like 10 minutes all night!

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We’re doing a sweetheart table. Almost all of our bridal party members are married and a few have children, and it didn’t seem right to split them all up. And I want the chance to have a little private conversation with Fiance right after we’ve just gotten married.

    Also, personal experience has led me to prefer sweetheart tables over head tables. My two best friends got married within the last few years and both of them had sweetheart tables. Their bridal party members got to sit with their spouses and kids and that was really nice. I was a bridesmaid in one of those weddings, and if she’d had a head table, I would have been sitting up there and Fiance would have been left to fend for himself with my daughter (the flower girl). She can be a real handful, so it was good that I got to sit with my family instead of having to sit at a head table.

    On the other hand, FI’s brother got married last fall and Fiance was in the bridal party. They had a head table. So for half the night Fiance and I were separated and it was my first time meeting any of his extended family so I knew practically nobody there. I did run into an old acquaintance from high school and sat with him and his family and that worked out okay, but I would have much preferred being able to sit next to and talk to Fiance during dinner.

    Post # 44
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    Honey Beekeeper

     I’m not a big fan of either and truthfully, both are quite rare at the weddings I attend.   We sat with friends at a regular table that we made a little larger to compensate for the fact that we were up and down throughout the reception.   Bridal party relatives  sat with other relatives.  

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’m doing a sweetheart table because it’ll give my SO and I some intimate alone time to soak in all of our hard work and also I have a bridal party of 20+ so yeah, just a sweetheart table for me!!!

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