(Closed) Sweetheart Table or Head Table?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Do/Did you prefer a sweetheart table or a head table?
    Sweetheart Table : (108 votes)
    66 %
    Head Table : (55 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 47
    257 posts
    Helper bee

    I think it’s rude to make the wedding party’s dates sit separately!

    Post # 48
    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We initially were going to do a head table. Then we realized the logistics of it. Most of the wedding party has a bf/gf who doesn’t know anyone else. I’ve been that partner and it SUCKS. Also, we will be up and about for most of the night, dancing, talking to people, being social. Our options are sit in the center of a table and constantly get up and down and hassle them or have a table to ourselves which will remain unused for the majority of the night. 


    So we’re going to do a sweetheart table and let our bridal party sit with their loved ones so everyone is comfortable.

    Post # 49
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We’re doing a harvest table. Me, Fiance and BMs and GMs will sit around a table in the midddle of the room surrounded by all the other tables.

    Post # 50
    831 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We had a sweetheart. I’ve never been to a wedding with a head table, I guess it’s just not common in my area.  Head tables seem old-fashioned to me.

    Post # 51
    503 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We’re doing a sweetheart table because we know we’ll be out walking the room for most of the meal and I don’t want anyone cleaning up my dinner before I’m ready.  I’ve heard so many couples say they didn’t get to eat at their own wedding, and I’ve got some blood sugar issues that won’t work out if I don’t get to eat.  Sweetheart table get s left alone until I get a chance to feed! 🙂

    Post # 52
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I had never heard of sweetheart tables before I joined the Bee so I think they are uncommon in the UK!

    We will do a head table like this one:

    My sister is my bridesmaid though and I stiill need to think about where to sit her long term boyfriend! And if I have my sister on the top table, I’ll need to think long and hard about where to sit my fiancé’s brothers. Decisions, decisions!

    It’s also common to mix up the bride’s and groom’s parents like this in the UK:



    Post # 53
    1009 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We did what I think might be called a King’s Table.  It was a round table (like all the rest of the tables, just slightly bigger), where we sat with our attendants and their SOs.  So no one had to sit apart from their SO, and we weren’t on display as were eating (and the round shape allowed us to talk to more than the person next to us).  I decided to do this after being a best man’s date for a wedding that did this.  It was the first time that I ever saw the bride and groom 1) actually eat at their wedding, and 2) have a really good time during dinner, so I knew that’s what we would do.

    Post # 54
    3724 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @lina010:  I feel that head tables are totally dated. I prefer the intimacy and styling of a sweetheart table.

    Post # 55
    2144 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had a sweetheart table. The wedding party was split between two tables so they could all sit with their significant others.

    Post # 56
    749 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had a head table.. but we only had a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Probably sat down for a total of 5 minutes to eat for the whole event. 

    Post # 57
    32 posts
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We are having a sweetheart table because that is how our venue is setting it up. I actually kind of like the idea of a sweetheart table because of the fact it is probably the only one on time you will have with FH also I don’t feel obligated to sit at the table all night. I plan on mingling and dancing the night away 🙂

    Post # 58
    1647 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

    We had a sweetheart table.   I WANTED a head table, but I didn’t want my wedding party’s guests up there with us… some of them people I’d never even met.


    So, we ultimately went with a sweetheart table, I felt weird about being the center of attention, but hell, it was my wedding, I was going to be center of attention anyway.    We went around to each table and sat down and chatted with the guest, though, making our way around the room.  We barely had time to eat our supper.   I wish I had been a guest at my own wedding,  I heard the food and the cake was fantastic.   I wouldn’t know  :/


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