(Closed) Sweetheart table or the whole wedding party?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
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    Sweetheart table

    Bridal party table

  • Post # 17
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Sunshineliz22:  While I like the idea of a head table, I just don’t think it’s feasible for us.  We have 12 in our bridal party, plus us, and I don’t like the idea of separating our friends from their spouses/SOs/dates.  I think we’ll do a sweetheart table and then put two tables of bridesmaids/groomsmen on either side of the sweetheart table, and seat our bridal party there along with their SOs.  That way they’ll still be close and we’ll still get to spend some time with them, but they’ll still be as comfortable as possible.  And as a plus, Fiance and I will get a little one on one time, too.


    Post # 18
    6533 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I like king’s tables best – wedding party and dates. But in your case that would be massive. Maybe you could do a table with you two, the Bridesmaid or Best Man and his date and the Maid/Matron of Honor and her date. And seat the rest of the wedding party at regular tables with their dates/families. 

    Post # 19
    2263 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I voted head table.  Around here, it is odd to have a sweetheart table.  I not only agree that dates can survive the time that it takes for you to have dinner alone, but also think that it draws undue attention to those in your wedding party without dates.  I know my Maid/Matron of Honor is depressed already about not being with someone she can bring to our wedding as a date.  There is also a 50/50 chance my FI’s groomsmen can’t bring his wife.  I think it would put them out more to be reminded that while the rest of the wedding party is paired off, they are not. 

    Post # 21
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We’re doing a sweetheart table because we want everyone to be able to sit with their significant others/families.

    Post # 22
    36 posts
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Here is my plan. Is this weird? We have 6 Groomsmen and 6 Bridesmaid or Best Man and my parents do not get along.

    I was just going to do a 10-person round like all the others, with:

    – Bride & groom

    – Best man & his wife

    – Matron of honor & her husband

    – Officiant (friend of ours) & his husband

    – 2 open seats for people to come visit

    Post # 23
    2737 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Sweetheart table! If it’s like most weddings, you’ll be running around greeting people, rather than hanging out at your own table. Plus, it’s not like you can talk to your Bridal Party other than the people that are right next to you anyway.

    Post # 24
    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley

    We’re doing a bridal party table & including any bridal party SO’s.  Probably 22 people total.  I wouldn’t want to keep husbands/wives from sitting together and I am not a fan of a sweetheart table.  They just look/feel akward to me.

    Post # 25
    12 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Definitely whole wedding party. I personally hate sweetheart tables and think its so much more fun when the bride and groom sit with the wedding party. We had 26 people at our “estate table” and it was fantastic! 

    Post # 26
    7439 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Bridal Party Tables rock…

    If you are close to your Bridal Party Buds… than they can be a ton of fun

    A real “once in a lifetime” sort of thing

    Just make sure you put the Bridal Party Plus Ones at a table really really close so they can interact too (take candid photos)

    That said, I know that more and more B&Gs opt for Sweetheart Tables… and they are “pretty” as well.

    Just IMO not as much fun as a table is with a whole bunch of other folks present to joke around with.

    The way I look at it is you’ll have tons of other opportunities in the future to share a table alone with your Hubby

    And unless you make it to your 25th Anniversary, and a Kick-Ass Reunion Party… you’ll never have another opportunity to be with your nearest & dearest quite like this again.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 27
    1604 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Do a sweetheart table.  You will be sitting down for a max 15-30 minutes while you eat dinner.  The rest of the time you will be up socializing / dancing / talking to your guests and there will be an empty space at your table, which is awkward for your bridal party (at least I thought so when I was a bridesmaids and sitting next to the bride and she was never there! I’d rather sit next to another bridesmaid)

    Post # 28
    2639 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Because you have such a large bridal party, I’d suggest sweetheart or two “king’s” tables. 14 people at one table is a LOT. And you really don’t spend much time AT the table talking to people. Since your bridal party is from out of town, why not get together back at the hotel with your girls after the rehearsal dinner? Or meet for breakfast the next day before heading out for your honeymoon.

    Post # 29
    1919 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We had a sweetheart table and had a “reserved” table next to us for our bridal party and their SO’s to share. They were together, they were close to us, and they got to sit next to their SO’s.


    Post # 30
    5136 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Sunshineliz22:  I didnt know people still do a kings table or a wedding party table.

    I voted for Sweetheart because the time that I spent at the table I wanted it to be just us. ANd not only that, but I hate the idea of a bridal party table for a few reasons, if the bridal party is dating someone outside the wedding party, their SO’s are forced to sit elsewhere which can be awkward if they don’t know anyone. I think the bridal party table is outdated. And I don’t like the way it looks in pictures.

    Thats my opinion.

    Post # 31
    8601 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I feel like this is definitely a regional thing. I have only heard of/seen sweetheart tables when I moved to NY. To me (because I grew up attending weddings with the traditional headtable) sweetheart tables are antisocial and exclusionary. My southern mother would be offended if I left out my BMs! I can’t wait to sit with my bridal party at dinner, its an awesome awesome memory and it honors them. I’ve sat away from my date because I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and we all survived nay, thrived! Otherwise its too… thanks for standing up and doing all this work for me! Now that pictures are done please go sit at your own table. 

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