(Closed) sweetheart table vs head table?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

We did a a large square-ish table so we could fit us, our bridal party, AND their dates. I loved it!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We did a sweetheart table. Our bridal party (and dates) sat at 3 different tables mixed with other guests (close friends). I really enjoyed having a sweetheart table and I think our Bridal Party was happy they were sitting with the people they wanted to.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I like the idea, but we’re doing a head table. I’m just not sure who’ll be sitting at it, the party or our family…

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We thought about a sweetheart table but decided against it. I know it’s our wedding day and people will be looking at us anyways but I feel like if there is just two people sitting there they will look a lot more while we are eating!

We are doing a family table. We aren’t having a wedding party so we are doing a squarish table and we are sitting there with our just our parents.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re doing a sweetheart table so that my family can sit together and FI’s family can sit together – it also allows the rest of our bridal party to sit at one table with their dates 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

For a long time, I was sort of anti-sweetheart table. Most of the ways I had seen it done was a small rectangular table and the bride and groom sat behind it, so it was almost like a mini-head table, with just the bride and groom on display…. and it seemed awkward to me. 

However, the more I thought about it, the more it made sense to me. 

For one, it allows our attendants to sit with their dates- I have been a date when they had one long “head table” that you are not invited to sit at…. and it sucks. 

By doing a sweetheart table in the middle and a round attendants table at each side, it lets our most special people sit with THEIR most special people (we have 4 attendants each, thus 2 eight-top rounds) 

Also, I think it can be really cute if you do it right- like you’ve got your own little private date table just for you. 

This is a picture I took at our venue when my wedding coordinator and I were viewing the space to get decor ideas. This is how we plan to set ours up (only more decorated and cute). 

 

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I wish we had done a sweetheart table 🙁 They’re so cute and I think husband and I would have conversed more. At the head table, we felt inclined to talk to our BMs/GMs.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We are doing a head table with our entire party and their dates….it will be around 20 people but we want to be near the people we are close to. Our honeymoon is where we will have our one on one time.

I want to share this night with everyone!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We’re doing two bridal party tables so their dates can sit with them.  From what I hear, we probably won’t be able to have a nice conversation with each other that day since everyone wants to see us, so I think a sweetheart is a nice way to spend some time with each other! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think sweetheart tables are cute. Everyone gets to see how happy you are. I sat at a bridal party table at my brother’s wedding and it was awkward, we all sat girls on one side boys on the other, we were sitting there looking at all the people we wanted to mingle with.  I personally don’t want either, i want to sit in the middle of a long table where all of my guests are seated as well. I want to be a part of the fun!

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Blushing bee

I’m completely undecided.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m personally not a fan of either. I don’t like head tables because it seperates the bridal party from their dates which sucks (I’ve been that date before). I also don’t think they’re very comfortable. There is no way for the whole Bridal Party to have a conversation which I don’t like. As for sweetheart tables, I definitely prefer these over the head table but I’m still not a huge fan. I don’t really want to be on display while eating. I’d rather woof down my chicken cordon bleu in peace (or atleast blocked by a few family members). We’ll be sitting at a regular round banquet table with both sets of parents and FI’s brother/SIL. Our Bridal Party will be at the next table over with their dates/spouses. 

I’m really looking forward to getting to spend a little extra time with our families on our wedding day. Even if it’s just 10 minutes, it will still give us some time to reflect on everything. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

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Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Our original idea was to have just a normal table with us, bridal party, and their dates. But we had one too many people for that, so we opted for a sweetheart table and I’m so glad we did. It was so nice having that time to spend with just my new hubby.

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