Sweetheart Table vs Head Table?

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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hickoryhills :  Sweetheart!  As a bridesmaid, I always hated sitting at headtables, away from my D.H.  We had a sweetheart table and people were constantly coming up to chat with us and give us hugs, so we definitely didn’t feel isolated! 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

We did a table with us, the best man and his wife, and the matron of honor and her husband. The rest of the wedding party sat with their dates among the other tables with their friends. It worked out great! Everyone had fun and were able to sit with their dates and their friends.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

How in the heck am I 32 years old and have attended dozens of weddings over the years, yet I’ve never heard of a “sweetheart” table?? Is this a regional thing perhaps??

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

sweetheart, no doubt! ive been in many weddings and i can tell you 100% bridal party prefers sitting with their dates. and the dates definitely prefer to sit with bridal party member! my poor future hubby, i was the Maid/Matron of Honor in my cousins desitination wedding and she decided to have a head table. he was stuck sitting with our grandparents! noone wants that

Post # 20
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Worker bee

I haaaate head tables. It’s like you’re forcing people in your bridal party to be on display which they’ll probably hate. I like sweetheart tables because it allows you some alone time with your spouse. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

My husband and I had a sweetheart table, and I loved it. It allowed us a few minutes to have dinner together before we walked around the room to mingle. Your guests won’t begrudge you ten minutes to eat.

I was in a wedding last year that had a head table and…I’m not a fan. My husband was also in the wedding and we were separated during dinner –  he was on the right of the groom with the groomsmen, I was on the left of the bride with the bridesmaids. The bridesmaids were super clique-y and I was isolated with no one to talk to during dinner. I felt like I was back in high school. I ate my food as fast as I could and moved.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

We sat at a round table with our siblings and their spouses.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Neither. We had our parents at the table with us, while the bridal party was with their partners at various other tables. That avoids both the isolation and the splitting of couples.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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sboom :  No but it IS a new thing.  I am in my early 50’s and to sit the bride and groom at their own table IS a new thing, like a 2002/2003 and beyond thing, I think.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Rydges Hotel

We did sweetheart table so everyone can sit with their SOs and friends. We didn’t want to seperate the couples just because one of them was in the bridal/groom’s party. 

We did however visit all the other tables and thanked everyone for comming to our wedding. 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee

We did a sweetheart table. That way, our bridal party could sit with their own dates and young children in some cases. Choosing to sit with select family members would have been difficult because there was no way to include everyone at one table. Plus we tried to sit guests at tables with people they knew, and that would have been hard without seating our parents with aunts/uncles who didn’t really know anyone else, etc. 

Post # 27
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Busy bee

I’ve only been to one wedding with a sweetheart table and thought it was super weird. Talk about being on display. On the flip side, I’ve never been to a wedding where dates were not included at the head table. Maybe it’s a regional thing, but people always do head tables and include the dates of the wedding party. That is what we are going to do.

Our venue is setting up a little room for just the two of us to have some appetizers while everyone else is at cocktail hour and we aren’t expected to be there anyway. I don’t consider being alone at a table with everyone staring quality time alone, but this will be and I’m very excited for it.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Sweetheart table all the way! It was so sweet to have one place alone with Darling Husband. Not rude at all, you’re pretty much only there to eat. And we had a dozen in our wedding party so there’d be no way to include SO’s and I think it’s so rude to seperate couples.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - New York, New York

I’m another vote for the sweetheart table. I was a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding, and dates/spouses were seated at another table because there were 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen. I didn’t like having to sit across the room from Joe during the reception, especially since Joe didn’t know anyone else at the wedding. A lot of the other bridesmaids and groomsmen deserted the head table as soon as they could to go spend time with their dates. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I wanted a sweetheart table initially as I think they’re really sweet! but we ended up doing a headtable and had special chairs for bride and groom. 

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