(Closed) sweetheart table vs. head table

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

there are pros and cons for both ways. people like the sweetheart table because it gives you and your husband a chance to spend some alone time together on that crazy day! ๐Ÿ™‚ just make the effort to actually sit there for a moment alone. at the same time, you’re right….you’re going to be walking around, talking to friends, and seeing people…why have a sweetheart table if you’re rarely going to sit there?

 people like the head table because you can sit with your bridal party. the bad part about this is that you end up sitting your bridal party’s dates at separate tables.  i’ve been to a wedding when this happened and i hated it especialy since I hardly knew anyone at the wedding.  

i’m having a chinese banquet, so it’s a little different for me.  the head tables are round tables that fit around 10 (give or take) people.  we actually have 3 head tables because that’s how the restaurant has the tables situated.  my family at one table, his family at another table (fi and i will sit there), and then another table for our out of town family members.  my bridal party will sit dispersed with the other guests such as their families or friends (and with their dates).

Post # 4
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497 posts
Helper bee

another alternative is to have you and your hubby, your best man and maid of honor and their guests at your table.  That way there are 6 people at your table so it isn’t so exclusive, but it still isn’t a huge table of attendants.

Post # 5
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

We are doing the standard head table, and although it is true that there SOs will sit elsewhere, the SO’s are all a big part of our family so they will be sitting at the family tables.

Also, We really won’t be at the table that long.  Just to eat, an hour max, And I’m willing to bet once the dancing and activities start, no one will be back to that table.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We’re going with the sweetheart table. Personally, I’m not a fan of head tables because they often force your bridal party to sit separate from their dates and/or just get unwieldy with too many people. We thought about sitting with our parents but even though our everyone gets along, I figured our parents would want to sit with their guests who are flying in for the event. I also didn’t want to keep getting up and down and leaving a gap at the table. The sweetheart table allows us the freedom to walk around, they’ll keep our food at the table longer (instead of clearing it away with everyone elses) and  lets us be the center of attention. A lot of people wind up coming to you… Plus- then your guests aren’t interrupting other people’s meals if they want to come up and see you.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

we’re doing sweetheart table for 2 reasons:

1. we want to be "alone" or as alone as can be – even if it’s for a little time

2. our bp will be bringing their spouses, so’s or dates – and we’d rather they eat with them…  (another reason we’re not doing the bp dance – ick!)  having been a date of a groomsman and having been a bridesmaid before – it’s just more comfortable to eat with your date versus being stuck at "the wives table"

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