Post # 1
I haven’t owned a swimsuit since I was in eighth grade, and Fiance has been begging me to get one so we can hang out in our complex’s pool. Now I remember why I haven’t owned one in more than a decade!
I need a lot of support up top, so I hit the Web for a bra-sized swimsuit. My ribcage is fairly big for my size/sticks out a lot because of my wacky shape: I wear a 36Dirty Delete, and the rest of me is a size 2 to 6, depending on the brand/clothing item. I also have an insanely short torso and have to wear petite things up top and normal sizes on bottom. (For reference: My wedding dress is a size 12 sample, and it had to be let out at the bust and taken in a few inches in the waist and hips. But because of my supershort torso, they first had to take apart the dress in the middle and lift everything up because the waist of the dress was originally on my hips.)
I didn’t want a bikini, but I like the pros of a two-piece suit, so I got a tankini — and this way I was able to order smaller bottoms, too. Well, the suits came, and while the bust and bottoms fit great, the tank part of the tankini is huge on me. If I got in the pool, it would just float up around my chest. I can’t get a one-piece, because that will be big all around.
I feel like I either need to get over myself and get a bikini (and wear a tank top or T-shirt over it in the pool — I hate my body, always have, and will go to great lengths not to show too much of it), or see if a seamstress can take in the tank part everywhere but the bust. I’m not sure that’s even done, because I’ve never heard of alterations on a swimsuit.
Anyone have any experience in this area or suggestions on how to make swimsuits work for me?
Post # 3
I dont see why an experienced seamstress couldnt alter it. Go for it and see what happens.
Post # 4
What about cutting it up the middle and making it a fly away type? It would look flown that way. Or did you want to keep yourself covered?
Post # 5
I would contact a seamstress and see what she has to say. If you’re not able to alter the tankini, you could probably find a bikini you like….there are so many options I’m sure you could find something with fuller coverage. I used to be a 34DD+ before I had a reduction so I understand!
Post # 6
@ThreeMeers: That’s FI’s vote, too. Now to find someone!
@MASPA: Definitely want to keep covered. I have a ridiculously poor body image, and I’m also paler than a ghost, so the more skin I can keep covered, the better! I can’t say I still won’t cover up in a T-shirt once I have something that fits right, but I’d like to have the option not to, should I ever get brave enough.
Post # 7
@BlondeMissMolly: Are you happy with your reduction? I was a 38F in my teens, before I lost weight. A lot of tears were shed over not being able to find clothes that fit. It’s a little easier now, but I mostly stick to various takes on the stretchy cotton tee. Still can’t do button-downs, which is a shame.
My distaste for bikinis (on myself) is that they leave my stomach exposed. I don’t think there’s any way around that, you know? I like to think I’m a relatively levelheaded, sane person, but all bets are off when it comes to how I see myself. It was so bad in grade school that I wouldn’t even go to the mall or places with a lot of poeple because I thought I was too ugly to deserve to be there. Crazy, right? I know what I see is not representative of what I actually look like. Not surprisingly, I developed a full-blown eating disorder and lost about 30 pounds in my late teens. And I still feel like — and see in the mirror — that bigger person. I don’t think I’d be able to walk out of my room in a bikini, much less my apartment. I don’t even wear tank tops or short sleeves (without a sweater, anyway, even in 95 degree heat), or shorts. Rationality flew out the window a long time ago on this one.
Post # 8
What brand did you buy, and have you been properly sized for a bra?
Seriously, I walked around saying I was a 32/34Dirty Delete until I got sized- turns out I’m a 30G, and magically the bras in that size actually fit. I found out the same company makes bathing suits and I’ve bit the b $80-a-pop bullet and bought two so far this summer, and they are life-altering. The fact that you’re saying you’re a 36 band size but a 2-6 everywhere else really makes me wonder if you’re wearing the right size.
If you’re buying bra sized tankinis, and the tank is too big, it could very well be because you’re wearing the wrong (too big) band size, because it’s really common for women to compensate for the cups being too small (especially at that “I’m already a Dirty Delete they don’t make them any bigger than this!” level- they do make them bigger, and a LOT of women need to realize cup sizes extend WAY beyond DD).
I think the first thing to do is get thee to a Nordstroms or other high end department store (stay out of Victoria’s Secret, please) and ask to be sized, and let them bring you stuff to try on. As an aside, you might hate your body less once you’re in the right bra size- it made me look at least 5lbs lighter because suddenly the girls were up and inside my body frame, so they weren’t making me look wider anymore. Once you get sized in lingerie, take that to the swimwear department and tell them what you’re looking for. No rule says you have to buy it there, since you can probably find it cheaper on Amazon, but it’s worth a shot.
I wear Freya bras and bathing suits, and while I wear the bikinis, they do make tankinis and full coverage bottoms, and they’re easy to find on Amazon in a WIDE range of sizes. If you’re actually like a 32F, the 32 tankini might fit your torso a lot better than the 36, while still giving you coverage and support in the cup. I haven’t tried them, but Freya also makes bra sized one -pieces.
Post # 9
I have the same situation! I am 34H (got measured) on top, but a size 6-8 on the rest of me.
Post # 10
@pinkfrog: I’m definitely wearing the right size; I’ve been measured in specialty shops multiple times. I abandoned Victoria’s Secret before I was even in high school, and I wouldn’t let them near with measuring tape now!
The 36 band is because my rib cage is freakishly large, and that’s an objective observation, not just something my brain concocted. Every time I’m measured, they’re shocked at how high it sits and how far it sticks out. Finding a comfortable bra is a bit of a chore because my ribs stick out right under my breasts, and they stick out FAR — you can see them through my clothes — so I need something that will sit above those ribs but not dig into them. Plus, because my breasts sit so high on me (short torso), I need short straps so they’re not too loose and balconette or demi cups so they don’t ride into my armpits. I’m hooked on Wacoal and the brand’s b.tempt’d line. Most of the bras don’t work for me, but they have some that are real winners. I’m really impressed.
I’ve learned to dress for my shape, so I don’t look terrible or totally abnormal, but my shape is definitely a little strange. My hips are on the smaller side (objectively speaking), but I’ve got some curve, so that helps balance things out a bit. My wedding undergarments are 34DDD, hooked tighter around my waist and looser around my bust.
As far as the tankini, the band and cups fit fine, but the part that goes around my stomach is really loose, like tent loose. It’s because most people with a 36Dirty Delete can fill these things out a little better. I’m not at all proportional, and that really gets in the way of swimsuit (and dress!) shopping.
Edit: I bought the tankinis from figleaves.com. I was looking there and at barenecessities.com, but I preferred the styles on the first site.
Edit 2: Google tells me my ribs are “flared ribs” — or at least look like them. A lot of the photos show them sticking out lower in the torso than mine do, though. Mine stick out right under my bust.
Post # 11
@cbee: It’s not fun, right? I mean, I’m grateful for my larger chest because of how far my ribs stick out — it helps camouflage that a bit — but dressing for such different sizes isn’t easy!
Post # 12
@MrsToB: I am very satisfied with my reduction. I have never once missed having my old breasts, or regretted my decision. If you ever decide to have surgery, make sure to talk to people in your area and find the best surgeon. My scars are very faded, but I’ve seen some that are bright pink years after surgery because the surgeon wasn’t very good. Feel free to PM if you ever want to ask more about it!