Post # 1
So, my husband proposed without a ring (and without any mention of a ring) about a year ago. A few weeks later I told him I’d really like an engagement ring, and he went and got one almost right away, without asking me what I wanted or liked or anything. Needless to say, I did not like what he chose – he hates rings so got me a very cheap band with a small CZ. I wore it for about 6 months, but then told him that I wanted to help pick something more my style that would last forever. This was NOT a big deal – he didn’t have any feelings associated with the ring (I was the only one with feelings about it, and my feelings were slightly hurt, haha).
So now I have the ring of my dreams (a moissanite bezel solitaire that was solidly in our budget), and we are both happy with it! My question is this – I’ve been wearing the other ring for 6 months, and when people ask me about the new one, I don’t want to say “I didn’t like the last one.” Do you think it’s best to just say that and stay truthful? Otherwise, how would you navigate this situation tactfully?
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Post # 2
Just tell them the original one was a stand-in ring until you picked one out you love. It’s none of their business, though.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Tell them you just got a temporary ring because you weren’t sure what you wanted and wanted to pick the right one since you’ll be wearing it for a really long time.
Post # 5
It was a stand in ring while you shopped for what you wanted.
Post # 6
If someone asks state that was a temp until the original was completed. I won’t be telling anyone that I upgraded at all, if someone asks I’ll say something but for the most part it will look the exact same just slightly larger.
Post # 7
I would love to see your new ring! 😀
Post # 9
You could tell them that the setting wasn’t exactly what you were after and you decided to pick a ring out together. There is nothing wrong getting something you are happier withand you don’t have to justify it but I do understand why you feel like you need to. I wouldn’t even mention it unless someone asks.
Post # 10
lola88: It looks gorgeous! Is this the new ring?
Post # 11
Say your weren’t happy with the last one and your fi didn’t mind that you wanted something different. It’s just easier.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
No one will even notice. (Personal experience)
Post # 14
Depends on what you said about the first ring…..did you let people think it was a diamond? simply saying “we upgraded” covers a lot and is perfectly acceptable to say. The less details you give, the less questions you will have to answer…..change the conversation after your “upgrade” statement if yu are not comfortable discussing it further. Uts a beautiful ring!
Post # 15
Your new ring is beautiful. I agree with daisybee, just say the first was a stand-in, which is true.