Post # 1
This is a weird situation… but lets see if i can explain it.
I have selected my Bridal Party a while back and asked my friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and my niece (who is my age) to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man.
After certain situations that have been going on, I feel like I want my niece to stand next to me at the wedding and have my Maid/Matron of Honor 2nd.
Is it even possible to change this order around without taking away anyone’s title?
Post # 3
It’s your wedding, you can do whatever you want! That’s the beauty of it.
Post # 4
You can do that if you want.
It does seem a bit odd though. You hear a lot of brides talk about Bridesmaid or Best Man "duties" and IMO, standing up with you are the only real "duties" of a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Usually, you ask the Maid/Matron of Honor to be a Maid/Matron of Honor because she’s the person you do want standing beside you…
Will your Maid/Matron of Honor be hurt by this rearranging? It sounds like the extenuating circumstances play a big role here. Are the MOH/BM sort of sharing the "MOH" role? If so, then Bridesmaid or Best Man standing next to you is a nice idea.
Post # 5
Its just that my Bridesmaid or Best Man is my family. And i think my Maid/Matron of Honor will understand, because, I think she always expects understanding from me in all situations so I can always talk to her. Its just weird because I dont want to rearrange titles just standing positions.
Post # 6
It’s fine if you want to do it, but people do often read a lot into standing order so just be careful about hurting people’s feelings. I personally would be inclined not to alter the order because they’re both up there with you anyway, so what’s the sense in rocking the boat? But if it is really important to you, then do it…. just proceed with caution.