(Closed) switching Bridesmaid order, MOH not first?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

It’s your wedding, you can do whatever you want! That’s the beauty of it.

Post # 4
105 posts
Blushing bee

You can do that if you want.

It does seem a bit odd though. You hear a lot of brides talk about Bridesmaid or Best Man "duties" and IMO, standing up with you are the only real "duties" of a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Usually, you ask the Maid/Matron of Honor to be a Maid/Matron of Honor because she’s the person you do want standing beside you…

Will your Maid/Matron of Honor be hurt by this rearranging? It sounds like the extenuating circumstances play a big role here. Are the MOH/BM sort of sharing the "MOH" role? If so, then Bridesmaid or Best Man standing next to you is a nice idea.

Post # 6
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

It’s fine if you want to do it, but people do often read a lot into standing order so just be careful about hurting people’s feelings.  I personally would be inclined not to alter the order because they’re both up there with you anyway, so what’s the sense in rocking the boat?  But if it is really important to you, then do it…. just proceed with caution.

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