(Closed) Switching sides at the alter (bride on right, groom on left)

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Do you think it's ok for the bride to stand on the right and the groom on the left?
    No way! Too weird! : (6 votes)
    16 %
    Sure, what the heck! : (31 votes)
    82 %
    Maybe, but I'm not sure (please explain) : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We switched sides but the other way.  In Jewish weddings the bride stands on the right and the groom on the left.  But we switched sides and I stood on the left because I wanted my right profile and the right side of my hair in the ceremony photos.  Our rabbi said it was untraditional but ultimately up to us.

    Post # 4
    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I plan on doing the same thing for the exact same reasons.. My left side is my good side and I will have a hair piece on that side.

    Post # 5
    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I can never remember which side the bride is supposed to stand on in the first place, so I doubt your guest will notice or care.

    Also, if the wedding book I bought is correct, then in Christian weddings, brides are on the left and grooms on the right but it is reversed for Jewish weddings. So if you’re not having a religious ceremony I don’t see it mattering at all.

    Either way, it’s your wedding so just do what will make you feel the most beautiful and happy. Even if someone is initially confused I am sure they will forget about it as soon as the ceremony starts.

    Post # 6
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think it’s fine if you want to stand on the right and him on the left. I think it’s weird if you want to have a “bride’s side” and a “groom’s side” for the guest but not have them align with where you’re standing. I would either seat your guests on the side you’ll be standing on, or else not do bride’s/groom’s side seating at all.

    Post # 7
    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We switched sides (I was on the right, husband was on the left) because I have a colorful half sleeve tattoo on my right arm and thought it’d be too distracting if I stood on the traditional left side. I also had a lovely flower tucked behind my left ear that I wanted to show off. We had the families switch sides as well, though. Why do you want your guests to remain on the left side if you’re switching?

    Post # 8
    676 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @FortiesFlare:  I never really thought about this and now I am thinking about my wedding pictures and I was on the right!

    Post # 9
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @FortiesFlare:  you can do whatever you want

    Post # 11
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    Then your easiest and best solution is probably to say nothing about dictating sides. Most people will probably assume bride-on-left-groom-on-right and seat themselves accordingly, and you’ll get the result you want without having to micromanage it.

    Post # 12
    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Another one here for switching sides for vanity reasons. My left side is my good side, the side where my bangs lay, where my hair will be, etc. It’s just better that way. 🙂 We don’t have seating “sides,” though, just four rows of seats and we’re not coming in from the back anyway.

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