- 2 years ago
- Wedding: September 2018
So here’s the deal. My fiance and I have been trying to plan a wedding for the past year and it’s been a struggle to figure out what we are doing because it seems that almost EVERYONE has opinions and scheduling conflicts. We originally were planning on getting married in April but, my sister decided she wanted to study out of the country and won’t be back until September of this year so we pushed the plans back per my Mom’s request. We decided on September 21st a while ago after finding out she was going overseas and it works out better anyway because its our anniversary and I love the thought of getting married on our anniversary 🙂 That’s the day that I want now and I don’t want to move it again. My fiance and I both have family from all over that would have to travel to where we are no matter where we have it. I moved from Ohio to Texas so virtually all of my family would have to travel. I thought about having it in Ohio to make it easier on my family but it would eat a lot of the budget to fly there and back to do taste testings, pick out a venue, and other vendors. I’m a very “see for myself if I’m going to invest a lot of money in it” kind of person. Very cautious consumer. The plan has changed multiple times on what we are doing to accommodate different people, especially my family.
Now, my cousin just got engaged and is planning on having a destination wedding in August. So, my mom is worried about my family having to choose which wedding they want to go to because they will be within a month of each other and travel can be expensive. To be fair, I haven’t sent out invites or anything and I’ve been trying not to say anything to people until we figure out what we are doing 100% so, my cousin probably didn’t know. I’m just really tired of trying to make it work for everyone. It’s been stressing me out and I feel if they really care about me or want to come to whatever I’m doing then they’ll come to support me. I want to be reasonable but at the same time, I’m tired of trying to work around people that might not be willing to do the same for me.
Right now we are thinking about eloping on our anniversary and then having a ceremony/reception with friends and family in November. I’m hoping that the spacing out of August to November will be better for people to travel instead of back to back. My mom is worried about my other sister not being able to make it because she will be in college but, we’d be having the ceremony/celebration on a Saturday so people can fly in on Saturday and out on Sunday and not miss work or school or anything. I thought of pushing it back to our anniversary 2019 to do the legal ceremony in front of family and friends but after discussing it with the fiance, we decided we don’t want to wait that long. At that point we would have been engaged for almost three years and don’t want to continue putting our life on hold. Thanks for reading. I just needed to vent a little.
My question to you all is, what is the best way to do a symbolic ceremony? Should I let people know that the ceremony in November would be symbolic? I do want to have a ceremony in front of family and friends and I’m ok with the legal ceremony being just the two of us. I’m wondering about the etiquette. Any other advice on wedding planning and this situation is welcome. I haven’t really told anyone this. Thanks!