Post # 1
My aunt’s husband just passed away an hour ago. They were only married for 4 months, I know she must really be hurting. I want to send her some kind of package to let her know that I’m thinking of her. I’m sure somewhere on the internet there are care packages available for the death of a loved one. Does anyone have an suggestions?
Post # 3
I think one of the better things you could do is provide food for her because she is not going to want to cook.
Can you arrange to have a restaurant bring her some roast chicken and sides?
If she is religious you could donate some money to have a church pray for her and her husband (I get these when I am in the hospital from DH’s Nannie)
Post # 4
I found this:http://www.adorablegiftbaskets.com/sympathy-gift-ideas.html
That’s so sad I hope she’s doing well. I also think food is important right now. Maybe even helping with cleaning she might not be very into cleaning at the moment.
Post # 5
I really want to send her food as I think that is something she would really appreciate, but I live several states away and I’m not sure of what restaurants in her area would deliver. However, I do like this idea so I will do a search and see if I find anything.
I also like the cleaning suggestion, if I lived closer I would certainly do this.
Post # 6
OMGosh that is just horrible… 4 months is such a short time to be with the Love of Your Life.
You are a good niece to care so much about her… for sure do something “practical” for her… you could make arrangements to have food delivered (they have those personal chef meals for a week programs / freezer meals etc), or you could write her and send her some Restuarant Gift Certificates (look online to see what is nearby to where she lives)… look for places that offer a variety of options… Eat In – Take Out -Delivery
In any case, you really should send her a Sympathy Card, and maybe enclose a personal note to let her know how much you care about her.
Then you can follow it up with some phone calls, or if you think that might be a bit awkward (not sure what to say) just make a point to keep in touch regularly with her by email. She will most certainly need her Friends & Family to lean on a bit for the next year or so, as she goes thru the grieving process.
Again, you are a sweet person… nice of you to care so much (No doubt, Karma will remember you in the future)
Post # 7
@This Time Round: Good idea about the gift cards.
OP if you can’t find a service that will deliver her meals gift cards are a very good idea. Maybe pick out a few restaurants that you know she likes and definitely try to keep in touch.
Post # 8
I just heard that she is staying with my aunt and grandfather and is planning on moving in, she lived with them before she got married so she’ll be comfortable there. My mom and dad also live next door so I know she will be in good hands while she is grieving. So now I’m thinking maybe something other than food. I could just send a flower arrangement.
Post # 9
I think a nice card telling her that you care would be a nice gesture. She may not need food or gifts or anything, but knowing that loved ones are thinking of her will comfort her in a way that nothing else can.
Post # 10
Since she will have people to help her, how about a soft robe and you can tell her its you hugging her when she needs some extra love
Post # 11
If you send her a care package with homemade cookies, tea, chocolates and other comforting foods. Honestly at a time like this, she will appreciate just knowing that you care.
Post # 12
OMG… i think you and your/her family should keep and eye on her, you dont know what things someone can think in that horrible situation, you can make a video of her marriage, collection of photos and tell her you know that she made him happy… and the idea of sending her prepared food is great, also hanging around with her, dont let her cry all day, try to do things with her…
Post # 13
I’m sorry about your lose. Depending on how much time you have- contact family member for photos, or index card with their favorite memories, and put together a small photo album for her. A gift certificate to something she enjoys- restaurant, spa, class, etc would be nice- something she can enjoy. Otherwise you can never go wrong with a sympathy card and flowers.
Post # 14
@ThreeMeers: I think that is a great suggestion.
@skarlita_19: Oh, please don’t do this. It is too soon. Way, way, way too soon for her to unexpectedly have photos or videos of her husband she just lost sent to her or presented in a way where she feels that she must immediately look at/watch them. And OP said she lives a distance away, but it sounds like she’ll be staying with family, which is good.