(Closed) T-minus 2 weeks til his timeline ends…thoughts?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: When and/or will he propose?

    Yes! before Florida

    Yes, in Florida

    Yes, in March... (why)

    Yes, in April (why)

    No, not ready (why)

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  • Post # 152
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    If she already proposed and he said no and if he says no again..then the control she says she has over the situation is irrelevant. If she cant force him to propose and she cant force him to say yes to her proposal, then the only thing she can do is either leave or stay with him as just bf/gf. So no, this control she says she has over the situation, there is none. Like I said, there is nothing she can do but wait and see, or leave..esp if he wont say yes to her. 

    Post # 153
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @jehembee:  Ouch.  

     

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    @subtlebee:  He just wants to do it right.  Believe it or not, guys do think about these things and have their own images of how it’s supposed to happen.  Poor guy…

    Post # 154
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Edited–can’t say anything nice 

    Post # 155
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @subtlebee:   Now it’s my turn to whine. I wrote a very supportive & encouraging message & I not only did not get a response but you seem to just want to argue with others who don’t agree with you. Not cool. 

    I hope this all turns out how you like & he asks very soon! 

     

    Post # 158
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    Buzzing bee

    @Coral99:  Which is why I believe so many of us are side-eyeing this big time. 

    Post # 159
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @subtlebee Thats my point…what is the use of a timeline if you stuck around? Most people use a timeline to make a decision of weather they are going to stay or go. I think its absurd that you are complaining on here about the fact that he isnt proposing in February yet you know if he doesnt now he will in fact do it in April. Either way, your getting the ring and the man, what does it matter if its 2 months after February. Stop whining and just deal with the fact that it may not happen in February and it may happen in April. Your panties are way too twisted about this. If your so sure that it will happen, then let it go and just wait another two months. There are women who have waited much longer and never had any indication of it happening. Like I, and many have said before, chill out. 

    You obviously arnt taking anyones advice, so why on earth are you on here? You just keep complaining and whining.

    I also think its childish that you pout to your professors. You ‘earned’ a specific grade (or lack of a good grade), if you dont like the grade, be accountable for the fact that you didnt do better because of you. How is it your professors fault that ‘you’ got the lower grade? Only you are in control of your grade. It not anyone’s fault but your own. Grow up and stop with the pouty crap. I think you said your 27 or 28? And your saying how pouty you are all the time if you dont get your way. Believe me, my emotions are written all over my face. If I’m happy, you can tell, if I’m sad you can tell..but if I got a bad grade, I dont go back to my desk and stew and have a pouty look because ultimately, my poor grade is only my own fault and it would be a lesson to learn that next time I would need to work harder to earn a better grade. Be accountable for you grades, afterall their ‘your’ grades. 

    Sorry but you just sound ridiculous in this entire thread. 

    Post # 160
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    If his plan isnt to get married for 4-5 years then your pushing him. Good luck with that. 

    Post # 161
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Inspired by the Waiting boards, I asked DH how he would have responded if I had dropped hints constantly, stomped my feet, and generally made a big fuss over him proposing.  

    He said he probably wouldn’t have ever married me, if I had acted that way.

    Keep in mind, he’s probably not the only man out there who feels this way.

    You can’t go through life stamping your feet and pouting when you don’t get what you want, when you want it. And that behavior is extremely unattractive on a grown woman.

    Post # 165
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @subtlebee So, if he doesnt propose on time, thats a lie? Umm no. Life happens. So, what if he has this elaborate plan, your ring is being designed and its not in Feb but instead its in April? What if, the proposal means something to him and he has something planned. Hopefully at the end of February you dont run to him telling him he is a liar, esp if he has been working hard to provide you with a special proposal. I know you dont like surprises BUT, this is just as much about him getting to propose as it is about you. This isnt just about you. When a man proposes, its a HUGE step and they want to have say over when and how they do it. You are taking the special moment away from him all because your being a brat and want it right this moment.  PLUS, February isnt even over yet and your already basically accusing him of lying because he told you he would do it by Feb. Get over it. If you are seriously going to hold it over him (and from the sound of it, in your mind you aready are) that he is ‘lying’ based on his timeline, then I feel bad for him. What difference does it make if its now or April? 

    I get that your a perfectionist, that is clear as day in your posts. I am too. I was always very anal in college about my grades however, I didnt sit there and pout like a child. I would realize I needed to work a little harder to get a better grade. I was also close with my professors but if any of us students acted like that, they would tell us to suck it up and work harder. ‘No crying in baseball!’….

    I hope once he proposes, if you dont scare him away with your childlike oushy behavior, that you look back on this thread and laugh at yourself the way many of us are laughing at you because you sound absurd. 

    Good luck. 

    Post # 166
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @subtlebee:  Just keep this in mind: some guys are more traditional than their significant other. It’s true for me and my guy (I don’t want a ring at all, but he wants to get one so I gave in). The proposal is something that is incredibly important to some guys. It sounds like your boyfriend is one of them. You may not need a ring for a proposal, but it sounds like your guy does.

    I really think he won’t propose this month. It’s possible he will in April, but, again, depending on what ring he wants it could take longer. Just be patient. It will happen when it’s supposed to happen and not a moment sooner.

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