(Closed) T-minus 2 weeks til his timeline ends…thoughts?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: When and/or will he propose?

    Yes! before Florida

    Yes, in Florida

    Yes, in March... (why)

    Yes, in April (why)

    No, not ready (why)

    Didn't read, too long!

  • Post # 182
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If he declined your proposal just a few months ago, what exactly has changed that makes him suddenly eager and ready to marry nw?

    Post # 183
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    Blushing bee

    Ok, so I read pretty much this whole thread. I really couldn’t decide where I stood in my opinion of this. It was made when you said this in a response:

    I dont consider it pressuring him. I know he wants to marry me. I simply don’t feel like waiting for a ring should postpone it any longer. This proposal isn’t just about his vision, my feeling do matter! If I dont feel like waiting for a ring is as important as his asking the question thats ok.

    You know he wants to marry you, right? If he wants to marry you, then he will want to marry you by the end of the month, through the month of March, and potentially forever. So when he gets the ring he will still want to marry you. You put a lot of importance on him asking the question, but you already KNOW that he will ask, and you know what your answer will be. I’m not trying to be mean, I’m just really trying to understand where you’re coming from.
     
    He wants to marry you, he will propose, he’s waiting for the ring. Stop bothering him – he’s trying to hold onto an ounce of surprise. LET HIM.

    Post # 184
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    Helper bee

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    @fishbone:  +100

     

    OP, you are insufferable. Why exactly are you here? Surely you are not looking for advice because you KNOW everything. At this point you have actively CHOSEN to be pushy. And are enjoying the reactions youre getting by being the “best there is” at being bratty (hooray for you). All Ive read so far is along the lines of: Im so impatient!”, calming down is “not an option for me”, you “hate surprises”. Your “quirkiness” is exhausting and the sole purpose of your post here is to contradict what everyone says and repeat yourself a million times.

    Poor guy. 

    Im excited to read how you will justify yourself yet again and “yes but” your way out of all thesubsequent  posts.

    I honestly wish you happy waiting!

    Post # 186
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @subtlebee:  You’ve missed my entire point. I’m saying that you insisting it’s “HIS” timeline makes no sense when he is obviously being pressured by you constantly. You pressured him by rushing and proposing yourself, you’re rushing him every time you ask or complain or pout about it. He has to tell you something to appease you or else he is probably afraid you will walk given your attitude. 

    People are being harsh in this post, but it’s because a lot of people have tried to give you honest and constructive advice, and all you do is shirk it off and try to explain why it’s not relevant. I understand that strangers don’t know all the inner workings of your relationship, but when SO many people try to tell you the same thing, to completely ignore it just seems unwise. 

    Am I saying that he doesn’t want to marry you, that it won’t happen? No way, I don’t know enough to say that. But I do know that you are doing yourself no good by harping on this. Give it time and stop hounding him over it. You know it is coming so, in the meantime just enjoy your life with him!

    Post # 187
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @QueenSP11:  +1. This whole thread is annoying. 

    Post # 188
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    Worker bee

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    @subtlebee:  Then I hope he is planning his exit by stalling the proposal you so clearly must have.  Poor guy.

    Post # 189
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    @sillysillybee:  the only immature thing that I’ve read in this thread is your comments. They are coming across as very rude and judgemental. Way beyond giving advice, which is the point of this thread. 

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    @subtlebee: I agree switch another PP (forget who – sorry!) that said if you mentally prepare for an April proposal, you may possibly (hopefully!!!) be pleasanly surprised 🙂 I do hope it comes sooner for you – fingers crossed for you! It sucks that the bee iis supposed to be a place to rant as well as get advice (especially the waiting boards IMO), so it’s too bad that you get grilled every time you post! PM me if you ever want to place to rant without being insanely judged (not that you don’t handle it well) ! 

    Post # 190
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

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    @subtlebee:  have you thought about leaving him? That may force his hand to marry you.

    Post # 191
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @WannaBeeMrsB:  My comments are the ONLY immature thing about this thread? Lol. The vast majority agree that she is being pushy, needy, whiny, demanding, self-absorbed and generally clueless. In my experience these qualities are usually incredibly unattractive to grown men, especially when considering who he wants to marry and spend his life with. My advice is that she lay off her ridiculous behaviour or he may change his mind about proposing all together, and when I say that it’s because I really think she is sabotaging herself and her eventual proposal.

    And as PP’s have also observed, she dosnt really want advice from anyone on the Bee anyway as she has no intention of following it but rather she just replies to all negative or critical posts with more and more absurd justifications for her off-putting behaviour. She is absolutely, without a doubt, immature and though I am no therapist, ill go out a limb here and guess that she also suffers from considerable narcissism And some people (like OP) need to be bluntly told exactly how they come across to others before they can understand.

    Post # 192
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    @sillysillybee:  you’re right, I apologize. Many responses are this thread are extremely uncalled for. I’m SO disappointed with some bees right now. Laughing as a response to another cruel posters comment? How INCREDIBLY mature of you (And others). Big difference between being blunt and being rude. If you don’t have anything nice to say than dont post. You know nothing about this woman so how dare you say that she is “nowhere near ready for marriage”. 

    Again, sorry for attacking you as my comments meant to be directed at a large amount of PPs in this thread. I just so happened to be reading your comments as I posted. Extremely disappointing, bees. 

    Post # 193
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @WannaBeeMrsB:  Just calling it like I see it…she asked for “thoughts” on her situation as described in her own words and that is exactly what she got on this thread. 

    Post # 194
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    @sillysillybee:  how unfortunate that you find rude ‘advice’ and namecalling to be acceptable. You gave your advice. Whether she takes that or not is another situation, and if you (again, and others) think that it’s acceptable to negatively comment on this than that is very, very unhelpful. 

    Post # 195
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1993

    My vote – he’s not ready. Your actions thus far regarding any proposal will undoubtedly have contributed to this.

    And seen as I am a married professional who graduated top of her class at both school and post-grad, who earns 6-figures, can cook, clean, is gorgeous inside and out that everyone loves, I am undoubtedly right. (See, that’s annoying, isn’t it?…)

    Post # 196
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @WannaBeeMrsB:  If you don’t have anything nice to say than dont post. 

    Yeah, that’s really not how it works. Especially when the OP asks for advice on the same situation for the millionth time – a situation that is pretty freaking ridiculous and she has caused herself by her admittedly bratty behavior. She needs a wakeup call for the sake of her relationship. Obviously she’s refused to accept any criticism no matter how true or valid, so you people have gotten harsh but I truly believe she needs to hear it. I’m not sure why you’ve decided to just pick apart 

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    @sillysillybee‘s posts, because if you read the last couple page sof this thread pretty much all of us wholeheartedly agree with her.

    OP has been in this relationship for barely a year. For the last six months she has been CONSTANTLY badgering her guy for a proposal. She has demanded that he propose by February because the month of March is out (which she always says but never states the reason why until a bunch of people comment on it, at this point I’m assuming she almost LIKES the drama and dissenting opinions), she ignores everyone who says she needs to get herself into counseling if her grief is that bad and says that’s just how she is, she says her mom calls her Veruca Salt because she can be bratty and wants everything RIGHT NOW, but that’s totally not a flaw or putting unfair pressure on her guy, it’s just how it is. The ‘timeline’ she is hellbent on is one the guy set when he was drinking, but she’s holding him to it even though she hasn’t held up her promise about not constantly bringing up a proposal, because LOL she just can’t help it she’s just sooooo impatient (again, after less than a year in the relationship). She posted venting about how long it’s taking for her guy to find a ruby for her ring, and when people gave her advice on finding a ruby she ripped them to shreds and said they weren’t being helpful she’s just venting about how she wants it NOW. I mean…holy crap, it’s ridiculous. The bee is typically a great place for waiting bees to vent, so if everyone is telling you that you’re being crazy ridiculous and unfair towards your guy, you should probably consider that they may have a point!

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