@fishbone: (Reply # 160) —-> A million times THIS
Inspired by the Waiting boards, I asked DH how he would have responded if I had dropped hints constantly, stomped my feet, and generally made a big fuss over him proposing.
He said he probably wouldn’t have ever married me, if I had acted that way.
Keep in mind, he’s probably not the only man out there who feels this way.
You can’t go through life stamping your feet and pouting when you don’t get what you want, when you want it. And that behavior is extremely unattractive on a grown woman.
lol, actually she can…
But she’ll be putting herself into a position filled with a lifetime of heartbreak and disappointment…
As most Adults will go out of their way to avoid such individuals.
The behaviour is quite tiresome. Someone always wanting to get their own way… or throwing a tantrum (emotional blackmail = pouting, threats etc). These occurences aren’t pleasant in a small child… they are even less attractive in a full-grown adult.
Like others I’m guessing that her BF is either feeling highly pressured… or is stalling because he’s got some trepidation about the whole marriage thing… be that because they’ve only been together a year, or the fact that she is only focussed on this one element of their relationship (and has been for over half their relationship)
Waaay too desperate… and too much pressure IMO… too demanding. To much about her, and not him. I feel sorry for the guy… he’s potentionally looking at a lifetime of trying to please someone who seems to be very self-centred and controlling.
WHY would any guy knowingly choose that? He is holding all the cards at this point in time (he took them into his hands / she turned them over to him when she proposed and he said NO). I’m guessing that he’s watching the rest of the game play out around him, before he decides what to do next.
It does look to me like she’s busily sabotaging her own chances… and she seems determined to do that.