Post # 1
My FH wants to have a bag with table numbers. People would reach in the bag and pull out their table assignments. I’m trying not to be a control freak BUT I don’t want my old boss (a priest) and my cousin (a senator) to sit with his (now our) idiot drunk friends. The same is true for my side. I don’t want my militant F* Bombing friend sitting with his 4 year old nephew. I like my FH concept on paper. I’m wondering if I use one (of 4) of my veto cards or just let it go. Help!
Post # 3
veto! one of the reasons to have table numbers is to help smooth out some of the potential sticky social situations. through the random method, what happens to couples? not sure if most of your guests know one another, but it would be a bummer to be assigned to a separate table from my sweetie if i didn’t know a lot of people at the wedding. one might say that it would be a good opportunity to make some new friends, but it could also be disaster.
either make table assignments that make sense or leave it up to guests to seat themselves as they would like – either would be better than the current proposal.
Post # 4
What we are doing is having reserved tables for family (tables 1-10 are reserved) and then the rest of the tables are open seating for wherever they would like to sit. We only ask that only 10 people per table.
We had assigned seatings for my sister’s wedding and it was a disaster. Some couples didn’t want to sit with another couple and asked to be moved.
Post # 6
Yes, VETO! Make the excuse that it would be too time consuming and maybe too confusing for the older folks. Can you imagine however many guests you’re having all huddled around some bag waiting for their turn?? What a nightmare! VETO! (I like that you have 4 vetos, what a great idea!)
Post # 7
Oh, definitely VETO!!! Could you imagine the mayhem if some people obeyed the rules and some didn’t?! I can just imagine our friends saving an entire table and my great-aunt Ethel got bumped from that table and got all flustered?
Post # 8
Yeah….. I don’t think that assigned seating is absolutely necessary, but if you’re not going to let people self-select their seating then definately assign it according to some method other than random chance. It has the potential to be beyond annoying and unfortunate, venturing into disastrous. Maybe random chance will assign all the divorced couples to sit together! Great!