Post # 1
Just posting to see see if anyone else had a similar concern regarding table assignments for the head table. In my wedding dreams I always imagined the head table being one long table including the bridal party and their dates. I’ve been on the other end of the person whose in the wedding and have been sat at the “odd man out” table. However we have eight BM’s and 6-8GM’s and only one overlap (one Bridesmaid or Best Man & Groomsmen are dating). Depending if the single wedding party members decide to bring a date we could have 30 people!
now say the venue can accommodate this (they may), my FI’s sister is in the bridal party and has three young kids (4,3,1). If I sat her and her busband at our table, I keep wondering where the kids will sit! I don’t want his parents to have to be responsible (although they would help in whatever way asked) and I wouldn’t mind them sitting with us (they are our ring bearers and flower girl) but now the tables even bigger.
any advice? I’m thinking just do a sweet heart table and two tables close to us with our party.
Post # 2
Sweetheart table and other tables close by sounds like a good idea:)
Post # 3
in the UK the top table traditionally only consists of the bride and groom, their parents, and the best man and maid of honour. So that could be an option.
Alternatively I think your idea of having a sweetheart table and then tables close by for the bridal party would be fine, too.
I think having everyone at one massive long table will probably look ridiculous. That and TBH I’m not a fan of the layout of top tables (we opted for a round ‘top table’) as you can’t really talk to everyone.
Post # 4
A sweetheart table may be the best option for you. We had a Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Bestman and 1 Groomsman in our wedding, so we sat with our immediate family.
If sitting with your bridal party is important, perhaps you could sit their dates and children at another nearby table. I’ve heard of 2 head tables.
Post # 5
Sweetheart table all the way. I can’t even remember the last wedding I went to that had a head table.
Post # 6
Traditionally the bride and groom would sit with their parents and the maid of honour and best man. However, the MoH and Bridesmaid or Best Man were also traditionally single so it sucks for their guest if they have one to be left out!
Im going to do just me and my Fiance and our respective parents. That way the wedding party can sit with friends and dates. We’re also just having a circular table so we can all chat and be less on display!
Post # 7
Head tables are still what people traditionally do in my area, but I think in your case I’d go with the sweetheart table. A head table of the size you’d need seems just crazy.
We had a head table, but we only had my sister (MOH) and DH’s brother (BM) in our bridal party. DH’s brother is single, so I just put my sister’s husband at the table with my parents and grandparents (which was right next to the head table), so my sister and her husband were still only about 2 feet away during dinner. They easily talked to each other during dinner and then by the time cake rolled around everyone was up and moving around, so she hopped over to the table with her husband. Seemed to work out well.
Post # 8
We aren’t doing a head table or a sweetheart table. We are sitting at one of the general guest tables and our wedding party, their kids and guests are scattered through out at tables that make logical sense.
Post # 9
Sweetheart table is the easiest solution. That’s what we did, no regrets.
Post # 10
With that many bridesmaids and groomsmen, I think doing a sweetheart table is going to work best if you want to seat them all with their dates/SOs.
We’re actually doing a head table with our bridal party and their dates. We have 2 overlaps (the Maid/Matron of Honor and a groomsman are dating, as are a bridesmaid and another groomsman). We have added the other groomsman’s girlfriend and the other bridesmaid’s husband. The married bridesmaid is my FSIL; she has 2 boys, so we decided to ask her where she would prefer they sit. She said she didn’t want them at the head table (we offered it as an option), so they’ll be sitting with my Future Mother-In-Law and other FSILs. I also didn’t want to ask this of my Future Mother-In-Law, but my Future Sister-In-Law was the one to actually do it – I figured that they’re here kids so I’d do whatever she was most comfortable with.