Post # 1
We’re going to have a buffet dinner and we totally planned on just having completely free seating. I’m starting to think now that with about 150 guests, it’s definitely going to be complete chaos if everyone just goes at once.
I don’t like the idea of having assigned seats/tables, but I’ve never been to a wedding where they’ve only had table numbers with no assigned seats/tables.
My thought is that we can put numbers on all of the tables, and once everyone finds a seat the DJ will announce tables by numbers to have things feel more organized.
What do you guys think??
Post # 3
The only thing you have to be concerned with when you don’t assign tables or seats is that sometimes people borrow chairs from neighboring tables, so there’s an uneven number of people at the tables. If that slight disorganization doesn’t bother you, then no need to worry about assigned seating. I definitely do NOT recommend letting everyone make a run at the buffet at once though! 😉
Post # 4
Yeah..I just went to a wedding that had a buffet and no assigned seating – the wedding was amazing, but people wandered from the cocktail hour early to “claim” seats because there was no assigned seats and the table I sat at had numerous chairs brought over..I think some type of system would be best!
Post # 5
I think assigned seating is always a great idea.
Post # 6
We assigned people to numbered tables and let them sit wherever they wanted at the table- it worked really well because our dj just helped with the flow and told the tables when to get up for the buffet.
I’ve been to one that was a free for all buffet- very confusing! It worked out in the end, but was a little stressful for the guests.
Post # 7
i think assigned tables (maybe seats too) is a good way to go. i’m not a huge fan of non-assigned tables for seating, gets too crazy IMO.
Post # 8
I would really do assigned tables for a wedding that size. Especially since people will be up and out of their seats for the buffet, I think it would get too confusing otherwise… Plus as a guest I always hate when there aren’t assigned tables- I guess I just don’t have that sixth sense or something, but I always end up at a terrible table with Great Aunt Mildred or someone…
Post # 9
@Scrchik17- I live in Rockville too! Maybe we are neighbors!
I agree with the other posters, if you were have a small reception of like 50 guests, that might be okay, but with 150 it’s going to be a little chaotic. Your best bet is too have assigned tables and then let people chose their seat at the table. It really only matters for the meal anyway since afterwards people will get up and mingle.
Post # 10
@SaraRocks – that’s awesome! Where in Rockville? Are you getting married around here?
Thanks for the help guys! I really hate assigned tables b/c I don’t want to be the person to say who needs to sit where…but I guess it is necessary!!
I feel better now 🙂
Post # 11
I feel AWKWARD at weddings if it isn’t assigned and I don’t know many people/anyone! I’d rather be told where to sit 😉
I think assigning just tables could be okay, especially if you wedding isn’t too large
Post # 12
I think having assigned table, but not seats would work to your benefit.
We are having a small reception; no more than 50 guests with a buffet.
We will be assigning tables, but not seats to avoid chaos and too many guests at one table and too few at another.
Post # 13
there was a thread recently about lessons learned at weddings about what NOT to do and it was pretty much unanimous that you should never have free seating! it creates a lot of confusion and awkwardness for your guests while they wander around trying to find a place to sit. i.e. oh there’s not enough room at this table, let’s try this one… oh no, our other friends are way over there but their table is already full with some randoms… see what I mean? In a formal setting like a wedding you should definitely just direct your guests to which table they should sit at but there is no need for assigned seats. once they know what table they’re at it’s no big deal to just pick one out of 10 chairs. i’ve never been to a wedding with assigned seats but they have ALL had assigned tables except one and that was weird. and i’ve been to like 30 weddings lol. either way you don’t need to worry about when they’ll go get food, the caterer takes care of it since they are professionals at this and have it down to a system. they will walk around “releasing” each table in turn for the buffet, it’s pretty much assumed that’s how it will work.
Post # 14
@Scrchik17 – I’m right by the Rockville metro station over by the town center. Where are you?
Post # 15
I voted for assigning the tables (and not assigning seats), but I do think a free for all can work well IF you have lots of extra seating. When my sister got married, she had almost 2 whole extra tables, so she didn’t bother with assigning tables and it all worked fine. When one of my friends got married on the other hand, it was a free for all, and there were not extra tables/chairs, so we ended up sitting with total strangers because that was the only place left to sit! Not so fun.
Post # 16
@ SaraRocks – we live right across Shady Grove Metro in King Farm!! We’re so close! Is your wedding around here too??
Thanks for the help!! It looks like I definitely need to have assigned tables. I appreciate the votes!