Post # 1
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<font face=”Arial” size=”2″><span style=”font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial”>Have you guys been to weddings or events where the photographer took table shots? Basically, that during dinner, the photographer came over, makes ½ the table stand up and move behind the other half, and then takes a picture. You can not imagine the crazy responses I am getting from photographers when I mention that I want these taken! Photographers have actually turned me down! Is it me???? Outside of playing Moon River, this is seriously the only thing my parents have requested. I’ve actually stated as much to the photographers…and even added a bit about how I realize it is inconvenient for the guests and is really 1950s etc etc. </font>
<font face=”Arial” size=”2″><span style=”font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial”>I understand that for older people, little kids, etc, it can be hard to move once you are settled, and I certainly make sure that the photographer knew not to force Great Uncle Archie to get up and move around the table to pose…but for the majority of guests, it really does not seem like a super hardship to stop eating for 2 minutes, stand up, and take a photograph. I’ve been to weddings where they were done and didn’t find myself leaving the wedding mumbling that “the wedding sure would have been great, except they made me stop eating for a minute to take a photograph…how rude of the bride and groom to make sure they had a picture of me attending their wedding!”</font>
<font face=”Arial” size=”2″><span style=”font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial”>Am I a nutcase or is this really a truly horrible thing to ask of guests? Oh and we won’t have a crazy number of tables…probably between 15 and 20.</font>
Post # 3
at chinese weddings, it is customary for bride and groom to go around toasting every person in attendance…generally, the photographer follows and people pose for a table shot….
as a guest, i dont mind…im a guest, suck it up….if you’re too unwell to go to a wedding, don’t attend.
as a photographer, i don’t LIKE doing these photos, after all its not really journalistic and they aren’t exactly exciting photos, but we understand that these are often requested and very sought after by guests and family, so we do it and do our best to make sure everyone’s not blinking etcetc…
if a photographer flat out refuses, they are either being too stuck up, or maybe they just don’t really wanna shoot your wedding?
Post # 4
We actually went around to each table to say our "thanks for comings" and to hand out our favors. Our photog was supposed to follow us, but somehow it didn’t happen.
Post # 5
That’s a really hard request for the photographer I think. Maybe you could compromise and provide a list of must have shots.. Like so and so with me and Fiance and mom.. so he has an idea. I’m sure the photographer knows that all of your guests are important to you.
Another question I would like to ask is are you having a book made? If so, think about what shots you will include in it. Will you realistically be taking up 5 pages of table shots of your guests? or would you rather pictures of you and hubby cutting cake and dancing?
That’s just my opinion, but I could totally see why that would be very hard for them to shoot.
Also, if someone is in the bathroom, or unaccounted for, will you notice and be mad, the photographer will then have to keep track of every person at every table to make sure he got a pic of everyone.
Post # 6
I just went to a wedding on Saturday and what your parents requested is exactly what these photographers did–in addition to bringing the video camera around and making us all say something to wish the couple well. I could understand why a photographer wouldn’t want to take those shots–but they are getting paid to do it, I’m sure you’ll find someone.