Post # 1
Fiance and I met with our wedding coordinator this weekend to pay some deposits and talk some details. She asked if we are going to have a head table, sweetheart table or if we’re going to sit at a round table with others. At first my Fiance said head table, but I don’t like that idea — everyone in the bridal party has SOs and kids who are not in the bridal party, and I think they would prefer to sit with their families instead of us. FI doesn’t like the idea of us just sitting at a round table with people other than the bridal party because he thinks it will look like we’re playing favorites. So we decided to go with a sweetheart table, but now I’m second guessing that — it just seems kind of anti-social or…maybe as if we’re trying to hard to be special…?
Anyway, I’d love to have your opinions, and to hear what you all have decided.
Post # 2
It’s your wedding day. You should stand out from the rest of the guests. I would go with sweetheart table.
Post # 3
We’re having a head table with the entire bridal party. Everyone kind of knows everyone, so friends/family will have other people to sit with. I’m not exactly a huge fan of sweetheart tables.
Post # 4
What about a table with you guys and your parents? Then you’re not playing favorites, and your wedding party can sit with their friends. I’m not a fan of sweetheart tables, either–you have the rest of your lives to eat just the two of you.
Post # 5
I’m not really a fan of head tables. It’s too “on display” for me.
What about sitting with your parents, FIs parents, and perhaps Maid/Matron of Honor and BM? Of course this gets complicated if any parents are divorced… so I’m not sure if that would work for you.
Post # 6
I’m doing a sweetheart table. The day is about us and i like the idea of having some semi private time together during the craziness of the wedding for a few minutes.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
We didn’t have a bridal party so we just sat at a round table with our best friends and siblings. We did place the table in the middle. People come to celebrate YOUR wedding, so it felt only right to put us in the middle so we can have wasy access to talk with everyone around us.
It’s completely a personal decision and how you want it. Talk to your Fiance some more. Do a preliminary seating plan and see if space allows for what you envision.
Post # 8
We did a sweetheart table since we didn’t want to play favorites at a parents’ table, and we didn’t want our bridal party to feel “on display” either.
Having a sweetheart table worked out better for our layout anyway, but the only time we sat at the table was to eat and listen to the best man’s speech, so it didn’t really matter in the end.