Post # 77
@PitBulLover: I believe there are “dabblers” everywhere. The one thing I learned from my mother is that you’ll be SHOCKED to see who actually does it. And truth is … I didn’t start this thread bc of the question with the alcohol; it was more of whether I should “dabble” before the wedding. lol (bc it is what I do on a daily)
But, then it all came out and I am more than happy I started this thread!! Met some great bees and its true, there are more of us out there! I wish we would chat about it freely, but I know it makes some uncomfortable and I do respect that.
But, its nice to get out that preconceived notion that all “dabblers” are lazy, stoners, stupid, and all of the above. Turns out we’re some interesting, intelligent dabblers!!! (hehehe)
Now … how to start a poll with the title “Dabble”
Post # 78
@njm1313: I think many would be shocked to know I do – I definitely dont “seem” like someone who does it…whatever that means!
I think if you feel comfortable dabbling before your wedding, and your Fiance is comfortable too then that is totally your call. I personally could never because I would be SO paranoid. WIth having to socialize with over 100 people I would be so conscious of myself and I would have hated that! I dabbled at our rehearsal dinner after party which was awesome because at that point I had had THE most stressful day ever and when my husband said “do you want to, Brother-In-Law has some” I was like HELL YES. I never expected I would at all on our wedding day but his uncle gave us some and so I said why not! Also, remember that dabbling before your ceremony and dabbling before your reception or after party are very different things. I would think about how you are going to feel in the future to know that you were not in your 100% right mind during your ceremony and while you are making the most important commitment of your life. It is something that you could regret down the line and that would suck! However I think dabbling while taking picturs could be a great way to destress if you want to!
Post # 79
@UpstateCait: I’m still waiting for you to make that thread. I know you are not shy! I think we’re all a little surprised by the amount of Bees who do “dabble”.
Post # 80
I definately want to crack a bottle before the ceremony. I quite sure that my Fiance is going to have a bud light or two before the ceremony. I know that his brothers will keep him from enjoying it too much. I would love a glass or two before the ceremony. A little tipsy might not be too bad.
Post # 81
I had 2 glasses of wine before i walked down the aisle!!!
Post # 82
I’ve been trying to be better about posting drama inducing threads but oh well. I just had a glass of liquid courage so look for my thread on dabbling in a few minutes! 🙂
Post # 83
@UpstateCait: I am looking forward to this!!!
Post # 85
@PitBulLover: Hey, I appreciate your last post. Its sort of the validation I needed to do what I wanted. I agree about not doing it before the ceremony, I thought maybe early morning when I first wake? (again, a daily … tolerance is high). But, unsure as to whether I will. Wedding is at 5:30pm
But, I really appreciate all the bees understandings and I’m excited for this new thread!!!
Post # 86
Ooh, yes, definitely! We’re going to give out a little gift of our homemade mead to all of our bridesmaids and groomsman ahead of time, so we’re all going to do a toast before walking down the aisle 🙂
Post # 87
@njm1313: Youre welcome! Honestly there probably isnt much difference to you between having a dabble or having a drink – especially that early on in the day. But also just remember that there will be tons of pictures taken of you so if you get squinty/red eyes at all just remember that! I get such a goofy smile and my eyes are very wonky looking!!
Post # 88
@PitBulLover: Haha YES I have such issues if I dabble before going somewhere where I’m supposed to be appropriate. I act fine, but I get SUPER paranoid… I learned my lesson the hard way in college… we have a formal chocolate and champagne party every year to celebrate the December graduates, and of course it seemed like a GREAT idea… except then I got into a conversation with the dean of students!
We’re definitely not doing anything before the ceremony, but I’m pretty sure there will be some dabbling later in the light. When I turned 18, I learned that it was not only totally ok in my family, but that most of our family friends dabbled, too.
Post # 89
@Entangled: OMGGGGGG that is so awkward!! I literally just cringed in embarrassment for your past experience!! I would probably think it was a great idea too…considering there would be champagne AND chocolate lol!
I think many people are so shocked when they find out that not only is it accepted in their family but that a lot of the older relatives still partake!
Post # 90
Our officiant requested that we don’t drink before the ceremony. While I completely understand where they he is coming from, my Fiance is a Sommilier (wine expert) and we had already planned on having a drink with our bridal party prior to the “I do’s”. We certainly wont’ drink enough to be drunk, but we’d like to toast to our best friends and family before the ceremony.
Totally your call, but I would want to respect my FI’s wishes on the special day. Maybe the two of you can share a special “dabble” moment after the ceremony to relax before the big party and only have a toast with your ladies before. That might be a nice compromise.
Post # 91
I said no, as long as you don’t get drunk BUT…
If your fiance would prefer you don’t have anything before the ceremony, and it’s important to him, I think that’s the most important thing. If it will bother him, is it really that hard to wait till after?