Post # 1
I posted in the “spinoff to cheap moissy” thread that I set my cheap green-blue moissy from India into a sterling silver v-shaped setting I bought from Etsy. It’s really pretty, but the moment I put it on my right hand, it seemed so taboo. It’s not so much that I mind wearing something so pretty on my right hand; but it’s the fact that I’m not engaged yet and my boyfriend has been saving for a really nice engagement ring for about a year now. (It’s been hard because of job instability, and we built a house together and so expenses have come up!). Anyway, my own lack of patience led me to the idea “maybe I could just make myself one in the meantime”. So I did. And now I feel guilty.
If you weren’t engaged but expecting that it would come soon, would you find it taboo to wear a e-ring-esque RHR like this one? I’m tempted to put it away until I’ve got “the real thing” on my left hand. And even then, I might not take it out because I wouldn’t want the stones to compete. I’m so torn!
What would you do?
This topic was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by intertwangled. Reason: original image seemed distorted
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Post # 2
I don’t think that wearing any ring on your right hand is taboo, ever, regardless of what it is and where it came from.
Post # 3
intertwangled: If you’d wear an engagement ring on your left hand, then I don’t think there’s anything taboo in the slightest about a RHR that looks like a solitaire… it’s not even a clear/white stone. But if it was, I still don’t think it’d be taboo at all. You’re fine!
Post # 4
I have always worn a RHR, both before my engagement and after. Sometimes they have a stone, sometimes they don’t, but there is nothing at all “tabboo” about a RHR whether you are expecting a proposal or not.
Post # 5
not taboo as a RHR! lol.
can i get a link to the setting you bought on etsy? i’ve been trying to find one for my moissy! 🙂
Post # 6
Did you ask yourself to marry yourself? 😉 people wear all kinds of rhr with as little or as much meaning they want. Rock it! It’s gorgeous.
Post # 7
intertwangled: I felt the exact same way you do. But after a while I just said that this is what I want and I’m going to get it. So I bought myself a solitaire RHR. My Boyfriend or Best Friend has stated that it doesnt matter to him.
Post # 8
And that stone is GORGEOUS!
Post # 9
Nope not taboo, I wore a RHR ring and LHR before I was engaged.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - Stillwell House
Three years into our 6.. 7? year relationship, I bought myself a 2.5 tdw ring featuring a 1 carat marquise center stone. I referred to it as my “I dont need a man” ring and wore it as a RHR. We were not engaged, and were not talking engagement, but the ring amused him because he gets it – that he is wanted, not needed.
I did feel a little dirty later, when we were talking engagement, because on some levels he felt he had to compete with my bauble. Yes, he bought bigger. I do not often wear that RHR now, but mostly because the custom setting lacks stability and I am working up to a re-set.
Post # 11
Completely agree with all pps – rock it! Unless you would ever consider using it as an e-ring in the future but that doesn’t sound like the case. Enjoy it!
Post # 13
theeebride007: Here it is: https://www.etsy.com/transaction/1047593976
It’s only $8.65! The stone cost me $9.55. Total $18.20, not including shipping. Not bad eh? 🙂
Post # 14
Thanks for all your input! Guess I’ll just talk to him about it, just to be sure it doesn’t put extra pressure. I’m sure he doesn’t care either way.
Post # 15
I’ve never worn RHR – I’ve always worn rings on my ring finger. When I was single and when Darling Husband and I were dating I always wore one whether it be a blue sapphire, moonstone, birthstone ring, moissy, etc. and never thought twice about it.