Post # 1
Did I get your attention?
So, I was looking at an offbeatbride post about the word tacky. It got me thinking because you see posts on here all the time asking, “Is this tacky?”
I honestly feel as if the vast, VAST majority of the time, people should use a different word. They don’t really mean tacky. They might mean ugly, or weird, or off-the-wall, or rude, or off-putting.
But THEN that got me thinking, what is tacky? Is it all of those things, therefore meaning nothing other than likely to be dissaproved of by someone? Is that what tacky means?
When I think tacky, I think something that makes a person look cheap and low-brow, especially if it was expensive. I think Kevin Federline’s jewel-encrusted “Pimp” hoody he wore to his wedding. I think wedding dresses that look like show-girl outfits. I do NOT think platic forks at a casual reception.
But am I wrong? Is tacky just so overused that it really means nothing?
Post # 3
Plenty of votes, no comments?
Post # 4
I agree with your usage of tacky. I also think that a lot of things labeled tacky, such as plastic forks, I would just think of as “cheap” which isn’t necessarily the same thing (and no offense meant to people who are using plastic utensils). I mean, it’s true–plastic forks are cheap, as are things like fake flowers (or cheaper, rather), beer/wine reception or cash bar, etc. I don’t think that these things are bad or that they would cast a bad light on the wedding, the same way that something “tacky” would–tacky being a stripper pole in the middle of the dance floor, for instance.
Post # 5
I disagree that the word is overused to the point of meaninglessness. Tacky can mean ugly, rude, or cheap. I grew up hearing this word a lot from my Southern mother who used it to describe pretty much that exactly – things that were rude, inappropriate, ugly, and/or inconsiderate. Tacky means a breach of etiquette. Since there is a megaton of etiquette, whether real or unwritten, in the wedding world, we use the word a lot.
Post # 6
I love the word tacky : )
Post # 8
I understand you not liking it especially when it is used a lot but I think they are using it right. I feel that it has many meanings. I looked it up and you think of it as number 4 which is right. Asking is plastic forks are tacky is like asking if it is tasteless or shabby in appearance.
I think it is more of a personal opinion.
not tasteful or fashionable; dowdy.
shabby in appearance; shoddy: a tacky, jerry-built housing development.
crass; cheaply vulgar; tasteless; crude.
Origin: 1880–85, Americanism; appar. identical with earlier tack(e)y small horse, pony, poor farmer; of obscure orig.
Post # 9
I think people are way too sensitive to the word tacky … I think that it is super overused, lots of things are referred to as “tacky” that I don’t think actually meet the definition (which according to marriam-webster is “not having or exhibiting good taste). I really don’t get too worked up if someone calls one of my wedding ideas tacky, because I think that “taste” is very individual and subjective, and shaped by culture, ethnicity, region, tradition etc. No one’s taste is exactly like another’s, and really, are we such experts that we can say that out “taste” is the true and right one?
Post # 10
I’ll take a stab – I voted that I just don’t like the word, because I think it’s about judging people for class differences. Not just differences in access to money now, but the cultural differences that result from growing up in a working-class community. I think you are right that it’s truest meaning is to call out things that look cheap although they actually cost money – and I think that such comments are largely a way to police class boundaries, so that people who grew up privileged can keep that privilege.
I have a running voice in my head that calls things tacky all the time, but I try not to let it out.
Post # 11
I don’t like the word. It’s over used, and In My Humble Opinion very rude!
Post # 13
I think there are appropriate ways to use the word. I do not think using beer or wine, plastic cutlery or having a chocolate fountain are tacky…
But I am in agreeance with monitajb — because I’m pretty sure that Kevin Federlines picture is next to TACKY in the dictionary…
Post # 14
I don’t use it very much, but there is def some tackiness out there in my opinion, especially really gaudy stuff; example that Jordan chick from the UK, her dress/wedding was SUPER TACKY!!! I agree though that the other smaller details, like plastic utensils at an outdoor wedding are not tacky; just a casual choice that makes sense to me.
Post # 15
i think tacky has a meaning all its own – and just because something is deemed tacky doesnt mean its cheap either. its a vibe it exudes. like… distasteful, off putting… well… tacky LOL
to me its definately not overused, but i think some people use tacky incorrectly….
edited to say im giggling now because im remembering princess bride when the dude keeps saying “INCONCIEVABLE!!!” and indigo says “you keep using that word, i do not think it means what you think it means…” hehehehehhee
Post # 16
I actually kind of like the word tacky. I want to know if something I’m doing could be considered that, because if my guests truly hated an element of my wedding, I wouldn’t do it. I am getting married for me, but I am having a wedding for them. 😉