Post # 1
Yes I said the forbidden word. Tacky….It describes everything to do about this person. Well I’ve known “her” since high school. She’s always been somewhat needy and had to have a bf at all times. Well we fell out of touch until facebook got popular and I found her again on there. She got married back in 2008 or 2009 and has two children with this man.
The reason I call her tacky is because recently after posting something about my own wedding she writes that she and her husband are getting “remarried”. Ok so renewing vows – no biggy. Well everyday its something new. She wants people to give her a bridal shower – for what? You already live with this man and you are MARRIED with TWO KIDS! She wants ideas for a ceremony and reception. She wants a bachelorette party. WTF! I’m am so confused by all of it I just went ahead and deleted her lol.
Post # 3
well I wouldnt call her tacky….lol….I think more off her rocker. Maybe she didnt have any of those things when she first got married! Maybe it was a “shot gun” wedding….lol. There really isnt anything wrong with having a ceremony or reception….I wouldnt do the Bachlorette party because lets face it she not! but do some sort of like a pampering day or something! Please dont take this the wrong way….but with you posting your ideas on facebook….she may be in that shoulda coulda woulda stage seeing you plan your own wedding….if she didnt get one this yours may be making her want to have it done right for a renewal!
Post # 4
After 3 or 4 years seems a bit early to renew your vows. If it was 10, I’d be on board, but even then I think expecting bridal showers and hens nights is a bit over the top!
Post # 5
Did she have a big wedding originally? Maybe they went to the courthouse and now have the money to have a big reception? I can see how people might not be too keen on a bridal shower but maybe she feels like she missed out?
Post # 6
Isn’t it against etiquette code to ask for a party, regardless of wedding or vow renewal?
Post # 7
My parents got married in a court house and my mom always regretted not having a “real” wedding. So, on their 18th wedding anniversary my stepfather, sister and I planned a “surprise” wedding for her. We got her a dress (my mom is very gullible so we actually got her to try some on), my sister and brothers got our outfits, we hired a hair and m/up artist, and my stepfather even bought her a new ring. He proposed, gave her a church wedding, and a reception all in one day. It meant the WORLD to my mother to be able to have the bridal experience (she didn’t have one with my biological father either). The bridal experience means a lot to some people.
Now, my mom would have never planned out something like this for herself but I can honestly say I have never seen her so beautiful or happy. Maybe your friend just wants the same feeling/experience?
Post # 8
@RahlyRah: That is such a sweet story!
Post # 9
Im renewing after 10 years… and we are doing the WHOLE SHABANG!.. we didn’t have money the first time.. or the support of people that we were going to make it ..we were young.. we knew we weren’t able to do the whole pre wedding things… so this time we are doing some of them.. but not with the same meaning…. we will have a day with our friends.. (girls massages, pamper day.. boys golf or whatever he decides).. then we are going to rent a limo and just goof around TOGETHER with our friends and go bar hopping… I have 1 kid..and he will be babysat by my parents for the night. Not doing a bridal shower though… Im doing a small wedding and a huge reception.. I honestly do NOT think its tacky… I am every bit as excited about this wedding as I was our first time around… Its like telling you your jealous that she gets to do it twice.. wich I KNOW YOUR NOT!.. but it kinda just rubs you the wrong way to say something that its tacky to be asking suggestions for reception stuff.. thats why Im here..Im asking questions … trying to get ideas… guess that puts me on the tacky list
Post # 11
@d_mari3: I agree with this it depends what happened the first time around. I have a friend who got married quickly casue she got preggo and their baby is now one and they just had their wedding with shower, batchelorette and all. People want to experience thoes things if they didn’t before. Now if she already did all that then that’s pretty bad.
Post # 12
@excited8164: Methinks thou art being a little too trigger happy with the FB delete button.
You don’t know what the circumstances are for the first time they got married. Also, could it be that her own life plans have absolutely nothing to do with when you announced your wedding plans?? Please stop passing judgments on your friend unless you know for a fact that she is just having a gift grab party.
Post # 13
I guess since you don’t know the circumstances of their original wedding, you can’t really know why she is asking for this. However, that is a little irritating if that is all she is posting about.
Post # 14
awww I guess this rubbed ppl the WRONG way 😛
Anyways I should explain my reasonings – first of all vow renewals are NOT tacky. They are beautiful. What really is TACKY is purposely asking people all over facebook to throw you a bridal shower just to get gifts. What is TACKY is writing all your personal happenings between you and your HUSBAND about how much you guys fight and how much you hate him and how you want to take your kids away from him but the next post is yay we’re getting remarried. So yes in her situation plus the other info i do know about her is tacky to me. Its not like she didn’t have a wedding the first time around. It was a ceremony AND reception with more than a few ppl there. Once again its posted all over facebook. Her entire life story is on there.
Point is my thoughts will not change and I hope ppl don’t assume i am purposely talking about them because I don’t know you or your life history and/or situation so don’t take things that durn personal. Toodles :/
Post # 15
@excited8164: What is she Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey?? I would think to do that to mark like a 20, 25, 30 50..etc…. Why so soon? LOL