(Closed) TACKY!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

well I wouldnt call her tacky….lol….I think more off her rocker. Maybe she didnt have any of those things when she first got married! Maybe it was a “shot gun” wedding….lol. There really isnt anything wrong with having a ceremony or reception….I wouldnt do the Bachlorette party because lets face it she not! but do some sort of like a pampering day or something! Please dont take this the wrong way….but with you posting your ideas on facebook….she may be in that shoulda coulda woulda stage seeing you plan your own wedding….if she didnt get one this yours may be making her want to have it done right for a renewal!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

After 3 or 4 years seems a bit early to renew your vows. If it was 10, I’d be on board, but even then I think expecting bridal showers and hens nights is a bit over the top!

Post # 5
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Did she have a big wedding originally? Maybe they went to the courthouse and now have the money to have a big reception? I can see how people might not be too keen on a bridal shower but maybe she feels like she missed out? 

 

Post # 6
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1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Isn’t it against etiquette code to ask for a party, regardless of wedding or vow renewal? 

Post # 7
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1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My parents got married in a court house and my mom always regretted not having a “real” wedding.  So, on their 18th wedding anniversary my stepfather, sister and I planned a “surprise” wedding for her.  We got her a dress (my mom is very gullible so we actually got her to try some on), my sister and brothers got our outfits, we hired a hair and m/up artist, and my stepfather even bought her a new ring.  He proposed, gave her a church wedding, and a reception all in one day.  It meant the WORLD to my mother to be able to have the bridal experience (she didn’t have one with my biological father either).  The bridal experience means a lot to some people. 

Now, my mom would have never planned out something like this for herself but I can honestly say I have never seen her so beautiful or happy.  Maybe your friend just wants the same feeling/experience?

Post # 8
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1213 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@RahlyRah: That is such a sweet story!

Post # 9
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121 posts
Blushing bee

Im renewing after 10 years… and we are doing the WHOLE SHABANG!.. we didn’t have money the first time.. or the support of people that we were going to make it ..we were young.. we knew we weren’t able to do the whole pre wedding things… so this time we are doing some of them.. but not with the same meaning…. we will have a day with our friends.. (girls massages, pamper day.. boys golf or whatever he decides).. then we are going to rent a limo and just goof around TOGETHER with our friends and go bar hopping… I have 1 kid..and he will be babysat by my parents for the night.  Not doing a bridal shower though… Im doing a small wedding and a huge reception..  I honestly do NOT think its tacky… I am every bit as excited about this wedding as I was our first time around… Its like telling you your jealous that she gets to do it twice.. wich I KNOW YOUR NOT!.. but it kinda just rubs you the wrong way to say something that its tacky to be asking suggestions for reception stuff..  thats why Im here..Im asking questions … trying to get ideas… guess that puts me on the tacky list

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@d_mari3: I agree with this it depends what happened the first time around.  I have a friend who got married quickly casue she got preggo and their baby is now one and they just had their wedding with shower, batchelorette and all.  People want to experience thoes things if they didn’t before.  Now if she already did all that then that’s pretty bad.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

@excited8164: Methinks thou art being a little too trigger happy with the FB delete button.

You don’t know what the circumstances are for the first time they got married. Also, could it be that her own life plans have absolutely nothing to do with when you announced your wedding plans?? Please stop passing judgments on your friend unless you know for a fact that she is just having a gift grab party.

Post # 13
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I guess since you don’t know the circumstances of their original wedding, you can’t really know why she is asking for this. However, that is a little irritating if that is all she is posting about.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@excited8164: What is she Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey?? I would think to do that to mark like a 20, 25, 30 50..etc…. Why so soon? LOL

 

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