(Closed) Tacky is not a strong enough word

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 122
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3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Hyperventilate:  So he should have walked past the bride to leave?  OK.  I suspect he and his poor family didn’t stay long beyond the ceremony.  

I totally understand that there are a lot of opinions and feelings on this and I really do applaud them for making their wedding their own, but was that song with the words not even attempted to be censored really necessary?  My opinion on them is not about what type of people they are or what their morals are, but that in that one moment they were incredibly inconsiderate to their guests.  Sure it’s their choice, but I think they made the wrong one.  

Post # 123
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9089 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Mars62312:  I highly doubt they’d have to walk past the bride down the aisle. It looked like a family member’s back yard. Walk to the right of the cameraperson and I bet they could easily shuffle away.

I don’t care about the bride or her song. But the fact of the matter is, regardless of what anybody in the world thinks about the video, it’s what the bride wanted. It’s her wedding. You think she made the wrong decision and that’s perfectly alright, but I’m sure she’d disagree with you. She clearly didn’t want to censor or alter the song. If she did, I’m sure she would have.

At the end of the day, it was her wedding. Not yours. Not mine. Not the boy’s. Not his father’s. This is what she wanted. People are free to leave if they are put in a position that they are uncomfortable or feels like it’s inappropriate. Those people chose to stay. For what reason? I don’t know, and it doesn’t really matter. They chose to stay. They didn’t walk to the right and off towards their cars, which from what I can gather from a shakey video is a perfectly viable option.

Post # 124
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919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

To each their own. But I couldn’t imagine walking down the aisle to a song like that, especially with the swearing and kids/elders around. 

Post # 125
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866 posts
Busy bee

Wow! I honestly have to wonder if this is even real or just something that people put together because they thought it would be funny. I am not traditional or a prude or anything by any stretch of the imaginaton but that is so beyong acceptable!

Post # 126
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866 posts
Busy bee

@Hyperventilate:  That’s very true. I do try to watch how judegemtal i am and honestly if this video is real, i truly hope she loved every second of her day!

Post # 127
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1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@rdevaney:  My first thought also- yikes!

@Hyperventilate:  We are going to have to agree to disagree.  The bride in this case totally had a captive audience!  It was completely disrespectful to ALL her guests, not just small children.  I’m all for making your wedding your own or having fun with it, but this is riddiculous and SOO trashy.  I am a firm believer that you can be a 43 year old grandma without being trashy, but she obviously cannot. 

Post # 128
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904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Good lord… O.O

Post # 129
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259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahaahahahaahahaha

 

 

 

hahahahaahahahahaha

 

WTH WTH WTH?!!!! I died. Oh man, too good.

Post # 130
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1004 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Wow, at first just reading the title I thought it sounded rude, but oh gosh OP is right! This would be great for a bachelorette party, but a wedding? I mean if all of your guests were in this age group and cool with it maybe, but I thought it was completely inappropriate with kids there! The look on that poor father’s face, he was horrifed! I think maybe they should have given guests some warning. I would not have been happy as a wedding guest. Do want you want and all, but please consider your guests! I have seen plenty and fun, classy brides dancing down the aisle who didn’t have songs with cursing and references to sex. This crosses a line to me.

Post # 131
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255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Honestly… not my style BUT it obviously was the choice for this Bride for HER wedding.

Look, as brides we spend a lot of time worrying about what other people will think and tearing up those whose ideas aren’t in sync with our own. It’s a little sad when you think about it.

I think sometimes we lose focus on what a wedding should be… and expression of love and of those, both the individuals and the couple, entering the union. With the guys in headbands and the groom all smiles, this was the perfect entrance for this particular wedding. 

And so what? She’s not trying to be someone she’s not. She’s being herself. How liberating!! Not every bride wants to glide down the aisle to Pachbel’s canon with swan-like grace in a cupcake dress. Truth be told…not every bride should.

So how about rather then calling her out on tackiness we just shrug and say ‘well I won’t be doing that but I hope my <<insert your own unique moment>> is just as memorable’. 

*for the record…the only issue I do have is the language in front of the children… there should have been a warning or an attempt to alter the words slightly*

Post # 132
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2268 posts
Buzzing bee

@KateByDesign:  “If people aren’t smiling, mouths are agape, covering their children’s ears, mouthing “oh my god”, and leaving after the bride has made it down the aisle…you’ve done something wrong.

+1.

Post # 134
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3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@wabanzi:  

Scream profanity down the aisle naked with bottle of tequila & dildo bouquet while shaving a kitten if it makes you happy 🙂

Most amazing mental image ever.

Re the original video, throughout the whole thing I just kept thinking “Why…why is this happening?”

Post # 136
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799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@wabanzi:  Seriously, I really hate all this obsession with “its your day!/its the bride’s day/its what she wanted!!”. No, no it isnt. Not when you invite people. You need to be considerate. The world doesn’t revolve around you. Not even for a day. 

 

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