(Closed) tacky or not tacky? that's the qiestion

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Tacky or not tacky?
    Tacky : (128 votes)
    87 %
    not tacky : (5 votes)
    3 %
    I would or did do this : (3 votes)
    2 %
    They deserve a regift : (11 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    183 posts
    Blushing bee


    Post # 4
    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012


    this person would get a punch bowl with a nice note  “sorry, didn’t know where you were registered”

    bwa ha ha ha!  


    Post # 5
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    While registry info etiquette is kind of all over the place nowadays, I think it’s pretty bs that she told you you shouldn’t have any of that info in your own invites, and then put them in hers…

    Post # 6
    9955 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Beyond tacky !!

    Double-dose of tacky when you consider she pointed out the Rule of Etiquette to you to begin with.

    Sheesh !!

    Lol, it is RUDE to do anything intentionally in retaliation… but I’d sure be wishing I could come up with some really great tacky gift to give her to make a statement (most definitely not something from “the Store”, or “the Registry List”)


    Post # 7
    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Although i don’t think it’s tacky to put a registry card in your invite itself, i think she could have worded it differently.  

    Post # 8
    1281 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Not exactly in best taste, but some people just don’t realize it may turn others off. 

    Post # 10
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I probably wouldn’t care.  I probably would of been like “OH, cool now I can get a gift they want.” But, that is just me, I don’t know all the traditions and etiquette of weddings and such.  I just sorta go with it.

    Post # 11
    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think the issue isn’t that it was in there (around here it would be strange not to) but the way it was worded and that it sounds like this person was already judging you for putting this same information in a shower invite, where MOST people exspect it. 

    Post # 12
    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @chasesgirl:  I agree.  It doesn’t bother me when people include registry information with their invitations (we’re not doing it, but it doesn’t turn me off when others do) – but the wording here is tacky.

    Also, yes, it’s fun to get gifts, but they shouldn’t be expected from guests, so to imply that there is a “when” guests buy them a gift is extra rude.

    Post # 13
    206 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Walnut Beach Resort

    Tacky! I mean they already have the website on there, how much easier can it get?

    Post # 14
    914 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Registry info is fine to me, but her wording choice is really bad. And it’s pretty ridiculous that she tells you not to do it, but then turns around and does it herself.

    Post # 15
    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m generally okay if others put registry info in invites ( i wouldnt do it personally) but the thing that would get me about this invite is the “when buying us a gift” THat’s rather presumptous.  Although, I’d like to give her the benefit of the doubt that she’s not rude, just a bit clueless!

    Post # 16
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @iheartsquishy:  agreed. I like registry info in the invites, but her wording is really off-putting. It seems like much more of a demand vs. info if you want it. 

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