(Closed) Tacky or Smart?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you try on dresses and then buy it online to save money?
    No. Its tacky. I want an unworn, brand new dress. : (11 votes)
    12 %
    Yes. Its smart. Im a bargain hunter. : (81 votes)
    88 %
  • Post # 16
    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Going into a store to test something with the intention of buying elsewhere… That just makes my blood simmer.

    This is part of the reason why some bridal stores don’t share information on a dress or let you take pictures of a dress until you commit.

    In other areas, it’s why businesses go out of business. It’s called showrooming. For example, you go to Best Buy to look at laptops. Spend hours messing around with the different kinds of laptops, talk to sales associates for recommendations, then walk out the door and purchase it on Amazon. Best Buy does all the work, but none of the credit.

    Why would a business have a physical store when customers just buy their stuff online? This may be an extreme, but is it out of the realm of possibility that eventually there will be no way to see something in person before you buy?

    I couldn’t go into a bridal store and ask the consultants to give me the full experience without the possibility of buying there. It feels wrong.

    Post # 17
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    littlebee94: I totally did this exact thing so… I got my $1400 dress for like $200 XD I didn’t expect to do this though. I can’t justify what I really like though. Stuff I love is like $20,000. haha. So… meh, compromises. Anyway, when I decided to order my dress from the store, I found it was discontinued -_- So I bought a sample I found in Alabama and had it shipped. I mean, when we’re talking hundreds or thousands of dollars for a dress, that’s pretty significant. I wouldn’t want to waste anyone’s time, but I went into probably 10 bridal shops having no idea whether or not I was going to buy anything.

    As for people commenting on going in a store before you buy… This happens all the time now. I don’t know how Best Buy stays in business, honestly. I managed a commission department for years, and that’s unfortunately just how it goes sometimes now, and I knew it, and my employees knew it, and it just sucks.

    And… I didn’t WANT anyone’s help, but I wasn’t allowed to try on dresses without someone hovering over me. One place even insisted she help me into the dress. No, I don’t want some stranger seeing me in my skivvies. I don’t care if you’re the same sex. You’re a person I don’t know, so go away. I’d much rather have my mom clip some dress on me than some stranger… it’s just awkward. I can try on clothes by myself, thanks. Also started wearing bike shorts to try on dresses -_-

    But I really hated managing a commission department, and really the whole idea in general. If you want good service for customers, PAY YOUR PEOPLE A GOOD HOURLY RATE. None of this commission crap. Nobody would have to worry about this stuff then, and service would still be good because people would keep their jobs, but we’d have far fewer pushy and annoying sales people also. Nobody likes that. Perks for sales, maybe, sure, but higher hourly rates is what they really needed. Not commission-based. Just not good for anyone except the company.


    So maybe you can just give them a heads up that you’re just looking and trying to get an idea of what you want and don’t plan on buying anything today. Often that’s how I’d get people to give me some space, even though I didn’t have any idea whether I planned on buying something or not. I just felt bad when they kept pointing out stuff I didn’t like and I’d have to be all “Oh, yeah… that’s not bad…” o_O;

    They need to just completely overhaul this wedding-dress-buying process.

    Post # 19
    1 posts

    Anon721:  I had intention of buying until the consultant showed me a gown thrice my price.

    Post # 20
    11583 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Yeah, sorry but it’s “tacky” ( your word)  to waste a working woman’s precious time and use the resources of a small business with no intention of buying from them.

    there are plenty of places that let you return pre-owned dresses after you try them on, which seems like a much more ethical approach. Since you are petite, as am I, I would suggest you find a style on petite brides with your figure that you like and focus on that style to narrow it down. 


    Post # 21
    1323 posts
    Bumble bee

    I went in actually looking to buy a dress, but when I went home to think about it and looked at the dress online, I found it brand new in my size for $500 cheaper because it was extra stock. 

    I feel bad that the consultant didn’t get my order, but a $500 difference is big for someone who is paying for their own wedding. In addition, my appointment was 30 minutes long. I think I would have felt much worse had I spent hours wasting her time with the intention of not buying. But it also happens every day that brides just don’t buy for various reasons, so I’m not sure how I feel on this one. 

    Post # 22
    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Personally, I can’t do a preowned dress. Fiance won’t let me. He thinks its jinxed lol, even if its dress regret. 

    I have no opinion either way, you do what you need to do that is best for you, and good luck 😁

    Post # 23
    534 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    littlebee94:  I tried on a bunch of dresses in various different shops. I was serious about purchasing something so I never felt like I was wasting their time. its a lot of trial and error to find a dress.  I finally found the one I loved and set up a dress alert on preownedweddingdresses.com. I ended up finding a sample on there for 1/2 off. I highly recommend going that route. My dress was 1649$ full price and I paid 840$ with shipping. It’s in excellent condition, and even wth alterations it will still be cheaper than a brand new one. Plus if I decide to sell it, I will have spent even less than half price for it! 

    I personally couldn’t even justify paying 1649 PLUS alterations for a dress to wear just once. It was a good experience buying from that site for me! Good luck 😀 

    ETA-I don’t think it’s tacky because you may go to one shop and not try on anything you like and then find your dress at a different shop wth different designers. I assume most brides don’t find their dress on the very first trip and salons know this…

    Post # 24
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    My consultant worked really hard for the sale. I set a budget based on what I wanted to spend, and she stuck to it. I like that they will handle alterations, cleaning, etc. I love to save a dollar wherever I can, but this was an exception, and it was worth it. I really want the shop to stay in business for other plus-sized brides. Yes, I could have saved $500 buying pre-owned, but I never would have found my way to the dress without her….so she gets the sale.

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