(Closed) Tacky? Re: Bachelorette

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

what kind of fundraiser? its a bit of an odd idea i must admit

if its selling something or providing a service (er sounds dodgy, i mean like car washing or whatever) then its strange but ok. begging for money for nothing isnt. a fundraiser activity could actually be fun if you do it all together?

Post # 4
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

That sounds really strange to me. The only thing I could think of is if one of the girls does direct sales parties (like a jewelry party or a bag party or whatever) and she wanted you to do one and then all the profits would go towards the cost of the bachelorette party, that would be okay. But I wouldn’t tell the attendees that was the intent!!

I do still find it odd, even in that situation. How much is she asking you guys to spend?

Post # 5
433 posts
Helper bee


What kind of a fund raiser?  Like a bake sale or something?? lol sorry but that does sound really tacky.  You guys should just have a party that everyone can afford instead of asking other people for money.  Fundraisers should be for those less fortunate, not for women wanting a fancy party.

Post # 6
3229 posts
Sugar bee

As long as you’re not doing the same kind of fundraising as the girls on Debbie Does Dallas, I see no problem with it. Hahaha, just kidding (if it’s not funny it’s because I am tired and hungry). It is incredibly tacky and thoughtless. 

Post # 7
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thats an Oh HELLLLL no for me.

Not wanting to spend a ton of money on a bachelorette party is not cause for charity. Its cause for coming up with a more affordable bachelorette party.  If she really wants to host a fundraiser, email her a list of worthy causes, like people who are going hungry.

Post # 8
5371 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

I think it’s really tacky (and I usually don’t like that word ahah), it kind of reminds me of a Stag and Doe party. Stag and Does are pretty common in my area and I’m super against them.

@padme:  “Fundraisers should be for those less fortunate, not for women wanting a fancy party” +1!

Post # 9
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah this isn’t okay.  The MoH should not be making plans that she knows are a financial burden to the rest of the wedding party unless she intends to cover those costs. If she can’t afford it, then she needs to change the plans. Relying on friends and family to kick in for a fancy party is pretty selfish, and calling it a “fundraiser” just makes it worse because fundraisers are expected to be for a worthy cause like charity, or new uniforms for the little league team, and not for an extravagant party.

Post # 10
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yeah.. no.

Fund raisers are usually for a greater organizations [as a pp put it : not for women who want a fancy party].

All the girls should be able to afford it, of do something cheaper. How about you just rent a hotel for the night and go clubbing/bar hopping? Or just visit differant places. Or maybe a shopping spree!

Surely there’s something that all the girls can afford that doesn’t require asking others for money.

Post # 11
6339 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Tacky, tacky, tacky.

Post # 13
1598 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No way. I wouldn’t call it tacky, just a bad/unneccessary idea. If everyone can’t afford it, don’t do it. There are SO many other options for a bachlorette party. 

Go with something that everyone can afford.



Post # 14
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Tacky and ridiculous

Post # 15
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I personally wouldn’t want to do it, but I think it just depends on how it will be received in your area.  In the part of the country that I’m originally from, I’ve seen people raise money for far tackier reasons.  I can’t count how many times I’ve seen people sell “fish plates” to bail someone out of jail.  Sadly, though I always bought one.  I’m a sucker for good food & can care less about the cause.

Post # 16
2648 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

$1,000 per person?? or wil you split it amongst like say 5 women? Either way, I think it’s super tacky & rather embarrassing.  As if I need a bridal party advertising my lack funds!  There has to be a more affordable bachorlette party idea.  Even if it’s just bar hopping in a nicer-ish town near you!

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