Post # 1
The Maid/Matron of Honor of one of the weddings I’m involved in this summer has been pretty… thoughtless about the wedding planning in general, but especially the bachelorette. She also seems to think that the rest of the girls have an endless bank account.
After being told by one of the BMs that her bachelorette idea was very much out of the price range of the other girls involved, the Maid/Matron of Honor has suggested we do a “fund raiser” for the bachelorette. I personally think this is ridiculously tacky.
Is a fund raiser tacky, and should we push the Maid/Matron of Honor to do something more affordable and more in our price range? Or should we just do the fundraiser, and the crazy bachelorette party the Maid/Matron of Honor has planned.
Post # 3
what kind of fundraiser? its a bit of an odd idea i must admit
if its selling something or providing a service (er sounds dodgy, i mean like car washing or whatever) then its strange but ok. begging for money for nothing isnt. a fundraiser activity could actually be fun if you do it all together?
Post # 4
That sounds really strange to me. The only thing I could think of is if one of the girls does direct sales parties (like a jewelry party or a bag party or whatever) and she wanted you to do one and then all the profits would go towards the cost of the bachelorette party, that would be okay. But I wouldn’t tell the attendees that was the intent!!
I do still find it odd, even in that situation. How much is she asking you guys to spend?
Post # 5
What kind of a fund raiser? Like a bake sale or something?? lol sorry but that does sound really tacky. You guys should just have a party that everyone can afford instead of asking other people for money. Fundraisers should be for those less fortunate, not for women wanting a fancy party.
Post # 6
As long as you’re not doing the same kind of fundraising as the girls on Debbie Does Dallas, I see no problem with it. Hahaha, just kidding (if it’s not funny it’s because I am tired and hungry). It is incredibly tacky and thoughtless.
Post # 7
Thats an Oh HELLLLL no for me.
Not wanting to spend a ton of money on a bachelorette party is not cause for charity. Its cause for coming up with a more affordable bachelorette party. If she really wants to host a fundraiser, email her a list of worthy causes, like people who are going hungry.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I think it’s really tacky (and I usually don’t like that word ahah), it kind of reminds me of a Stag and Doe party. Stag and Does are pretty common in my area and I’m super against them.
@padme: “Fundraisers should be for those less fortunate, not for women wanting a fancy party” +1!
Post # 9
Yeah this isn’t okay. The MoH should not be making plans that she knows are a financial burden to the rest of the wedding party unless she intends to cover those costs. If she can’t afford it, then she needs to change the plans. Relying on friends and family to kick in for a fancy party is pretty selfish, and calling it a “fundraiser” just makes it worse because fundraisers are expected to be for a worthy cause like charity, or new uniforms for the little league team, and not for an extravagant party.
Post # 10
Fund raisers are usually for a greater organizations [as a pp put it : not for women who want a fancy party].
All the girls should be able to afford it, of do something cheaper. How about you just rent a hotel for the night and go clubbing/bar hopping? Or just visit differant places. Or maybe a shopping spree!
Surely there’s something that all the girls can afford that doesn’t require asking others for money.
Post # 12
@NAvery: She wants us to go to Vegas, and with all the events she has planned in vegas, it’ll come out to be about $1000, including the plane ticket and hotel.
@sugarpea: Is a Stag and Doe party like a Jack and Jill? If it is, I feel the same way. Super tacky.
@MRSsrm85: I don’t know what ‘Debbie Does Dallas’ is, but I’ll just say yes. Hah hah.
She hasn’t really said what kind of fundraiser, just that she wants to have one to make the trip more affordable, since apparently I wasn’t the only one to complain about the price.
Thanks ladies. I felt it was tacky, and like some of you have mentioned, I feel like a fund raiser should go to people less fortunate. I felt like I’m always the bad guy shooting down the MOH’s ideas… although pretty much all of them have been just as ridiculous and tacky.
Post # 13
No way. I wouldn’t call it tacky, just a bad/unneccessary idea. If everyone can’t afford it, don’t do it. There are SO many other options for a bachlorette party.
Go with something that everyone can afford.
Post # 15
I personally wouldn’t want to do it, but I think it just depends on how it will be received in your area. In the part of the country that I’m originally from, I’ve seen people raise money for far tackier reasons. I can’t count how many times I’ve seen people sell “fish plates” to bail someone out of jail. Sadly, though I always bought one. I’m a sucker for good food & can care less about the cause.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
$1,000 per person?? or wil you split it amongst like say 5 women? Either way, I think it’s super tacky & rather embarrassing. As if I need a bridal party advertising my lack funds! There has to be a more affordable bachorlette party idea. Even if it’s just bar hopping in a nicer-ish town near you!