(Closed) Tacky scripted wedding thank you

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
11412 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would not be offended. They said thank you. They paid for the thank yous. That is all I would hope for, a simple thank you.

But I am sure lots of bees would be offended by this. I’m just not so easily offended.

Post # 4
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3969 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Sweet.Sugar.Rose:  +1. I got a lot of other things going on in my life to worry about. They acknowledged that they received the gift (so I know it didn’t get lost in the mail) and they thanked me. They thanked you timely. Many people would complain that they got a long hand written thank you 2 months after the wedding, and that it was rude it was not “timely.” I can’t keep up with other people’s expectations!

Post # 5
Hostess
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I wouldn’t be offended but I do think it is appropriate to hand write a little something to the gift giver.

My DH and I ordered pre-printed cards and then I hand wrote a special note specific to the person that gave the gift….so we had both. I enjoy handwritten notes versus pre-printed messages and I figured my guests would too.

Post # 6
Hostess
3381 posts
Sugar bee

They said thank you, I’m surprised they didn’t add a little “sorry you couldn’t make it” inside but ultimately I don’t think one can complain if one gets a thank you these days.

Post # 8
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

i’ve received two of these types of thank you cards …

The first one was married in Feb and I chipped in with everyone from work and we got her all her china, she sent us a pic of her and DH, still hangs on the fridge.  I recieved it in about a month and she thanked us so much for getting her china for us, in the added hand written note. 

The second one was from my 2md cousin, she’s 40years older than I am, it’s her first wedding and the pic and pre printed thankyou note came exactly one year after her wedding and had nothing about what we gave. (gave money and seriously for a year worried that one of her druggie nephews/my cousins, stole the bag with the $$ and cards). 

Appreciated the first one much more.  To tell the truth tho, after handwritting 45 or so thank you notes myself, and I’m sure we screwed up a few because everyone came back to our house, when we and everyone else were drunk, to open cards and gifts. …… at least she hand wrote something to you .

Post # 9
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I received one like that in the past, no hand-written note though. It doesn’t make me any less friends with them, and I wasn’t “offended,” but honestly, I do think it’s in poor taste. It has been several years and that one still stands out in my mind – whereas I don’t necessarily remember if I did or didn’t get thank yous at all from other people, I just remember they went to the trouble to send them but then made them pre-printed.

I was raised on writing thank yous though and think they are very important.

The thank you is the final impression you leave with your guests. For me, I’ll take the time to handwrite them (and FI will do his side, but we’ll both sign them all).

Post # 10
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658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I understand that “thank you’s” are proper etiquette but I personally think they are  a waste. all I so with them is through them away after I open them, so I honestly could care less if i got one or not. But, that’s just me. 

Post # 11
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857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@GirlNextDoor:  I’ve posted about the same thing! So rude. At least this couple signed it – I didnt get that honor! 

Post # 12
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@turkey22:  Are you doing invitations? Programs? Favors? Flowers? There are lots of things about weddings that are “a waste,” but most people do some or all of them anyway. If I’m going to be wasteful on anything, I’d rather be wasteful on showing my guests gratitude.

That said, pre-printed vs. hand-written aren’t any more or less of a waste, except perhaps of time.

Post # 13
Member
2609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Offended… no.  Think they’re lazy… yes.

We eloped, so we didn’t expect gifts, but just in case we got them, I ordered 25 thank you cards.  Really elaborate ones, printed with 12 photos on the front, inside, and back.  I wrote at least 3 lines in them, mentioning the gift specifically, thanking them for their generosity, and describing how we used it.  Eg:  his parents gave us $500.00 and we used it for a champage helicopter tour.  It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience, which we never would have splurged on on our own, and we’ll never forget it.  That card is still on their fridge a year later.

Post # 14
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@turkey22:  If you don’t get a thankyou note … how do you know they even got the gift?

Post # 15
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488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I believe a hand written thank you card is just common courtesy.  I recieved a “thank you” for a wedding gift on Twitter… TWITTER?!  I was highly offended.  Granted, I sent their gift after the wedding, but still…

Post # 16
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857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@turkey22:  It’s proper manners to thank someone for giving you a gift, plain and simple. 

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