Post # 1
I’m hosting my sister’s baby shower in the next month and wanted some opinions! What are some things that you have seen at baby showers that are tacky? I’ve never hosted a baby shower before and haven’t been to one in years so I need some help please!! Thanks in advance!
Post # 4
Be careful what games you choose…there are some truly horrible ones out there.
Post # 5
I think tacky versus normal is a regional thing. In some circles, games are very normal and fun, in some, people are not interested. Also in some circles doing things like putting out a piggy bank with the words “College Fund” on it is very normal, but in some circles this might be rude.
I think as long as you have some snacks, beverages, some type of entertainment, and it is not a “gift grabby” looking experience, then it is going to be just fine!
Post # 6
I’m going to echo the games thing. I hate baby shower games (well, any kind of shower games). I went to FBIL’s wife’s baby shower and her mom had set up all of these games, and it was like, ughhhh… They weren’t as bad as I’ve seen (wrap something in a diaper, smell it, guess what it is), but still. It was also a joint shower with her sister. so it was twice as long as it should have been, heh. Her other baby shower (thrown by FSMIL–future stepmom in-law lol) was very nice. Lots of decorations that were very nicely done, lots of great food, gift opening, the end.
Post # 7
If anyone tries to throw me a baby shower when/if I’m pregnant, the following rules will apply: 1. No opening of gifts. 2. Must be co-ed. 3. No games allowed. 4. It’s fine to serve booze even though I won’t be able to partake.
Post # 8
Certain games like the one where everyone has to guess how big the bump is and then the measure mom to be. I don’t know about anyone else but I would find this completely humiliating if I had to be measured for everyone elses entertainment. Also, that f’ing game where they melt different kinds of candy in diapers and people have to guess what kind it is. That’s completely disgusting and in no way appropriate. I would actually walk out of my own shower if my hosts thought this was a good idea.
Also, any kind of money grab. Guests are already buying a gift, they don’t have to contribute to babies first bank account too.
Post # 9
@ElbieKay: We actually just went to a shower like this (one of our GMs and his wife), and it was really nice (albeit a million degrees outside). She did open gifts, which I think most people enjoyed, but mostly we just hung out and ate good food.
Post # 10
@UpstateCait: I loved being measured for everyone’s entertainment! I truly thought it was hilarious! BUT, I agree that the hostess needs to be careful with this one. There was no way in hell we ever could have done this for my sister-in-law as she was extremely upset about her weight gain. It would have left her in tears. This is one you need to ask the momma about first for sure.
@ElbieKay: I would be HORRIFIED if I went to a baby shower and the new momma did not open her gifts. That would seem very unappreciative and gift grabby to me.
Post # 11
Only a money grab would seem tacky to me. Otherwise, I think it really depends on the mom-to-be and the crowd.
I’m not a big fan of shower games in general, but I think they can definitely have their place. For my sister, we had the string to measure around her belly. She suggested it, so I knew she was OK with it, and it was really funny actually (some people pull off about 8 feet of string, other people pull off basically something that would fit around a newborn). Other people would NOT be ok with this.
I’m not a fan of almost anything to do with diapers– the guess the candy bar, guess by smell, any of those. Plus I don’t care for the thing where you bring diapers to get entered in a raffle (goes along with the money grab comment). Guess the baby food was fun, and little trivia things go over well with my crowd. But, I think keep the games short, keep the present opening moving, and have good food. I find the gift opening at a baby shower a lot more fun than at a wedding shower. Pots and pans are nice, but baby thigns are SO cute.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I would hate to go to a shower where gifts were not opened. That’s the point of the shower, to SHOWER the mother-to-be with things she wants/needs for her child.
Post # 13
@mrsSonthebeach: Yeah, I hate opening gifts in front of people, but I feel it is the right thing to do since they spent the time and money.
Post # 14
One game that did go over extremely well at my sister’s shower was one where each table was a team and they had to come up with as many songs as they could with the word “baby” in the title. It is simple, quick, and gets people talking. We passed out scratch tickets to the people at the winning table.
I HATE those “don’t say the word ‘baby'” games where if you get caught, you need to give the person your clothes pin or whatever.
Post # 15
@ElbieKay: I’m kind of with @heathaah: on the gift opening. Isn’t the point of a shower to shower the mom-to-be with gifts? And everyone wants to be thanked for their gift, so I’m not sure how you would accomplish that at the shower without opening the gift?
I did go to a “no wrap” shower where the gifts were put on display for everyone to see so the mom-to-be didn’t have to strain opening them. I didn’t think that was horrible. Is that more along the lines of what you meant?
Post # 16
I like it when mom to be opens the gifts and I can definitely see how not doing so would rub people the wrong way (not saying I’d be one of those people but I know many that would). The only thing about gift opening that I find to be a huge pain in the ass is when every single thing is passed around so all of the guests can see it. My friends mom tried to pull this at her shower and almost in unison, all of the guests were like “NOOOOO!”. If we wouldn’t have spoken up, it would have taken like 6 hours for her to open all of her gifts and I don’t have that kind of time.