(Closed) Tacky things at baby showers

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@heathaah:  I can definitely see how some people would like it. I have a few friends who would be totally into it. I, on the other hand, would probably break down in tears like your SIL. 

Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Cady:  Okay, that’s not just me, then. I hate opening gifts in front of people. I find it really awkward and have had way too many incidents of bad gifts. I would definitely open gifts at showers, though.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I just missed my cousin’s baby shower, but I saw pictures and the host had made cupcakes with little chocolate babies on them… they looked weird and I would feel very disturbed eating them.

Post # 20
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Helper bee

The games are always SUPER tacky – and embarrassing. If I was pregnant, there is no way I’d want people guessing how “big” I am and then measure me!  I would also have no desire to sniff a melted candy bar in a diaper and guess what kind it is.  Gross.

 

When I  was hosting a baby shower for my sister, I had guests tie-dye a baby onesies. I bought them in sizes newborn – 12 months (a pack of four cost about $10) and then tie-dye kits. The woman loved it and my sister loved dressing her baby in them for the first year. 

 

As a side note, the other tacky thing I’ve seen regularly is alcohol being served at the shower. If the guest of honor (the momma to be) isn’t supposed to have it, everyone else should refrain out of respect.

 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The games usually are kind of stupid, but I think it’s a good way to disguise the party from what it truly is- a gift getting endeavor for mom to be. I was invited to a baby shower via facebook a few years ago. They invited all 500 of her friends, nevermind that over half lived out of state and would not be able to attend (of course the registry info was included on all the facebook invites so out of towners could still participate). There were no games. There were no ice breaker activities. There were no around the room introductions. There was no food. They made cupcakes and that was it. The entire party consisted of watching mom to be open her presents. I thought that was pretty tacky. They didn’t even bother to pretend it was anything more than just an opportunity for mom to be to get stuff.

Post # 23
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@TheFutureMrsCarness: I disagree on the alcohol front but that’s just me. We served mimosas at my SIL’s shower (that my Mother-In-Law and I hosted) and she had no issue with it. Actually, alcohol has been served at most of the baby showers that I’ve attended and I don’t think the mom to be was ever annoyed by it. When my time comes, my guests will be more than welcome to induldge a bit even though I can’t. If anything, it helps coerse them into participating in the stupid games.

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@middleschoolsweethearts: Having each guest bring a book is a great idea. We did the same for my SIL’s shower. We didn’t ask the guests to inscribe anything in them but I know some people who were particularly close to her did (like my Mother-In-Law and I). My SIL loved getting so many books to start the babies library. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Regarding the presents thing… I have always found that to be extremely tedious when I’ve had to sit through it as a guest, and I would feel really uncomfortable sitting through it as the mom-to-be.  To be honest, I would really rather skip the shower entirely, or call it an “un-shower” or “baby welcome party” or something.  I don’t want my friends to feel that they need to buy me a gift in order to celebrate something.  And I’m happy to buy someone a gift, but I really don’t care if anyone else knows what I bought.  My friend can just send me a thank you note and that would be fine with me.

Post # 26
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Personally – I find all of the games fun!  DH and I went to one recently where they had a pregnancy/baby trivia game and every table was a team.  Amazingly, the table of guys took 2nd place!

I think having everyone bring their favorite children’s book would be really cute!  Stock the new baby’s library!

@ElbieKay:  I would find it tacky if the mom-to-be DIDN’T open her gifts.  Showering the mom with gifts is the main point of the event.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Agree with PP- If I bought you a gift for a shower, I want to see you open it and “AAWWWH” over it. Showers are the only place you get to do that haha

I love all the games, except the one where you can’t say “Baby” …honestly? We’re at a ^@#ing baby shower. Talking about babies, and baby clothes. I’ll say baby all I want, and if your grandma snatches my clothespin, i’ll cut her. 

Not really, but haha!

@middleschoolsweethearts:  YES! Bring books! Reccomend that they bring them for all stages. That way baby can be read to, and when they can read on their own they’ll have a library already. I love that and hope that is done at my shower, eventually haha

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

The games are pretty cheesy, so it depends on the crowd.  I just hope I never have to play the “guess what melted chocolate that is supposed to look like poop is in this diaper game”.  The whole concept of that game is so bizarre!

One thing I love is an activity where you get plain white onesies, then lots of fabric markers, puffy paint and stencils and let people make a onesie for the baby. It is so fun because they are really personalized and creative!

@heathaah:  I would be 100% ok with never watching anyone open gifts again 🙂

Post # 29
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Busy Beekeeper

I went to a baby shower this weekend, so your question is timely.

1)  Treat people like adults.  The host was a teacher and I felt like we were elementary students in her class.

2)  Have food and drinks ready when guests arrived.  Give people directions on what to do (ie:  please have something to drink, or the plates are here, please help yourself.

3)  Sinage is important – so you know what you are eating/drinking and don’t have to guess! It also helps for guests who have food allergies.

4)  Focus on the guest of honor.  Instead of playing games everyone loathes, I would have rather spent time hearing from the mom-to-be.  Like recounting positive pregnancy moments, sharing hopes and dreams for her child, etc – really, ANYTHING.  Sometimes games are nice, in case the ice needs to be broken, but typically, they are just ‘fillers’ that no one really wants to do.

5)  Don’t have guests write their address on thank you note envelopes

 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs.KMM:  Yah, I guess the real answer is that I don’t like showers and would prefer to skip them entirely (both mine and other people’s).

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

The best baby showers I have been to were the laid back ones with no games and people chatting, opening gifts, and well wishing the mom-to-be.

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