(Closed) Tacky to request gifts be mailed to out of state home??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

We got married 300 miles from home and most guests knew to send gifts to our home instead of bringing them to the wedding. If you want to say something, though, I’d put on the website under the registry links something like: “Please keep in mind that the bride and groom live in ____ and will be flying to the wedding.” That way your statement says NOTHING about gifts. Your parents and bridal party can help spread the word too.

Post # 4
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it’s normal to ask that gifts be mailed to your home, especially if you have some bigger items on the registry! It was certainly asked of guests at the last wedding I went to since they live in SC but got married in NY

Post # 5
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I worked at an upper scale, privately owned store where I live. This store has a bridal registry. The items that one would register for included things like very, very fine china and gifts…think Neiman’s. Anyway, I , as a store associate never balked at sending a gift to the address the couple had on their registry. No one ever commented on that, either. The one thing they did comment on was the price of either delivering to an outer area (we offered that locally) or mailing the item, but that was not us…it was the US post office. And it was only based on zip code, never size of the item.

Part of giving a gift is ensuring the recipient is able to get it. You wouldn’t buy a gift for someone and expect them to come fetch it from your home…right?

It’s just fact. You live 800 miles away. You aren’t rude. If they have an issue, there are always gift cards.


Post # 6
9117 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We live in Oklahoma.

We’re getting married in California.

Our invitations will state that gifts are not required, but if you buy us anything, to have it shipped to our home.

Having to load up wedding gifts to take back with us on the plane, or to ship them back third-party will be expensive as hell and is just a tedious task. There’s nothing wrong with asking your gifts to be sent elsewhere.

Post # 7
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe you can register somewhere like Amazon (free super saver shipping over $25 which would apply to most gifts!) or Bed Bath. At Bed Bath, you can return gifts for cash and then re-buy them in your hometown.

Post # 8
11419 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Most guests likely will  have your gift shipped to the address on your bridal registries. So, as long as you list your home address in the stores’ databases as the address to which you would like items to be shipped, you should receive most of them at your home. 

Post # 9
9117 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@kerensa:  Provided your local store has the item, that is.

Post # 10
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Most of our gifts were sent to our home anyway, & we had a local wedding. When we had family friends who lived out of state but got married here, we always made sure to mail their gifts to their home. When you create your registry, just make sure you put down the address you want the gifts shipped to.

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