Post # 1
He proposed when I got home Friday night, the same day that we picked out the ring!! I thought he’d make me wait for a while…but he said that I looked too happy when I tried it on, and he didn’t want to keep me waiting any longer!
One thing I learned from waiting was that the resentment that I was building was not healthy or fun, but it was kinda valid. He had actually started looking at rings last fall, but couldn’t make up his mind. It was straight up procrastination, or just an inability to follow through. And so when I told him a few weeks ago, once again, that I was annoyed that we weren’t engaged yet, he said that maybe I could help pick out the ring. He basically just needed a kick in the butt to get things moving. I’m perfectly fine giving him that, and he was perfectly fine with it too! This was kind of validation that it’s okay to give him a nudge every once in a while, and that it’s a dynamic that actually works for us in a lot of aspects of our relationship. (Just wanted to add that in case there were any Bees with similar feelings!)
Post # 2
Your post definitely spoke to me and it’s something I worry about with my SO. I feel like he’s one to drag his feet just because he can. I really don’t want to nag so I try and keep quiet and just let him do his thing. I think I will give it a bit longer til I give a REAL nudge.
I DO mention weddings, and our future wedding every once in a while…but it’s never an actual push. Just light hearted discussions. We have been together for 5.5 years now and I have a feeling he won’t make me keep waiting past our 6 year anniversary, or possibly my birthday because it’s less than a month after our anniversary. But if he doesn’t propose by then I may need to give him a similar “kick in the butt” as you did.
Thanks for your post…glad to hear that I’m not the only one with a guy like this! Haha Love him to death but sometimes I wish he would be a little more type A.
Post # 3
camcambee: wahoooooo!!! Congrats! No more waiting 😀
Post # 4
Ahhhh congratulations! That’s amazing 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks you guys!!! I’m still kind of walking on clouds and feeling surreal!
mrs.akjp: Best of luck to you with your type B guy! I totally know the feeling. I had my meltdown with mine just after our 4 year anniversary. I had been trying to give him the benefit of the doubt for so long, and the control freak in me just couldn’t take it anymore. The light nudges weren’t as effective as him seeing how much this was upsetting me. I hope all goes well for you!!
Post # 6
camcambee: Congrats! Ring pic please 🙂
Post # 7
Congrats! It’s cute (and good for you) that he couldn’t wait until you had the ring on your finger for good! 🙂
Post # 9
Congrats! I have tried my best to be patient While waiting. I feel like I give my SO an unnecessary kick in the butt just due to my impatience. Just recently we got in a small argument and I brought up getting engaged. He actually ended up giving me a timeline and said that he can start paying for it next month! I’m excited but I feel guilty that I keep nagging him about it…please post ring pics!
Post # 12
Yay! Congratulations!!! And I agree with PPs, do we get the pleasure of seeing the beauty?!?