(Closed) Take Me Down to the Little White Church…or Court House

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I am probably more on the practical side. If I were you, I would weigh the emotional cost of being legally married before your ceremony against the actual cost of being hospitalized without insurance.

I don’t think being legally married before your wedding will impact your actual wedding day much. Your ceremony is about declaring your love before your family and friends and I dont think getting  a piece of paper that gives you legal rights early will change that for you. If you still want it to be special, you can keep it quiet and not tell anyone. Just tuck the piece of paper in a drawer and forget about it.

However, you can also look into getting private insurance. Before my work offered insurance, I applied for insurance. I was turned down by one company and had to go with a high risk plan. It cost a good chunk a month and I don’t think I used much of it, but it was totally worth the peace of mind it gave me.

My Fiance doesn’t have insure and I freak out about this. Often. He never gets sick but you just dont know when an accident will occur. His work is talking about offering him insurance which is why I am not forcing him to the courthouse immediately.

Post # 4
1251 posts
Bumble bee

Minnesota girls must just be bound to practicality, because I would go for it and get married for the insurance as well. Granted, I have asthma, so I really, really, need insurance. I think MissTatas is spot in saying that you have to weigh the risk of not being insured.

I don’t know what’s availiable in your area, but many insurance companies are now offering private insurance plans for young people. So if you really don’t want to get married, that might be an option.

Post # 5
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I personally wouldn’t risk not being insured.  One minor thing like breaking your arm can rack up thousands of dollars.

Post # 6
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was in the same position. I have some health issue I need to take care of and no health insurance. In the end, I decided not to get married beforehand because I didn’t want to risk taking anything away from the actual wedding day.

On the other hand, one of my good friends “married” her boyfriend 2 years ago so that she could move to the US and they could be together. They had been dating long distance for a while and flying back and fourth every 6 weeks. They never called themselves husband and wife and never really thought of themselves as married. They got engaged this week and I don’t think that it has taken any excitement away from her. Their first wedding was at City Hall and no one was there. Their real wedding will be in France with their families and willl definitely still be special!

Good luck with your choice!

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