(Closed) Take my dream job or stay where I am?? What would you do?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

DO IT! ๐Ÿ™‚ Take your dream job if they offer it and don’t look back. You don’t know what may happen with your current position in the future. You don’t know if things will change before you have these potential children. you can’t plan on that.


Do what you love and love what you do, adn let everything else fall into place!

Post # 4
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Run to the new position.  Federal jobs just suck the soul out of you.  IF you stay too long they get you sucked into all the benies.  They never fire anyone, it’s hard to move up, and OT can suck.   Do what’s in your heart, i mean since you were 13?  do it, you will always wonder …. what if … 

Post # 5
9135 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@adoc86:  Absolutely do it.  You will always regret turning down your dream job, especially if it is that tough that you had to pass two rounds of tests.

Post # 6
4505 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Take the job if you’re offered it. Don’t base your plans on what you hope will happen in the future (children) — cross that bridge when you come to it.

Post # 8
239 posts
Helper bee

take your dream job.  it’s been your dream for this long for a reason.   to completely negate and forget about that dream for something that you don’t have yet is crazy.  things may change between now and having children, etc, etc.  it makes no sense to live in the future….you need to live for your now.

Post # 9
7371 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Dream job. Always. No matter what happens at least you know you went for it, rather than having regrets and wondering “what if”. Your “children” arent’ here. And who knows if your plans for family will fall in perfect timeline. Go get your job!


Post # 10
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Take the new job!  Even if/when you have kids, working at home is still working, not taking care of the kids.  Taking care of little ones is a full-time job – you’re not going to be able to work a full day and also take care of them.

Also, things change – no one’s saying you have to stay in either job for the rest of your life.

Post # 11
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d never turn down anything based solely on something that may or may not happen in the future.  What if you can’t have children?  Also, just because you’re physically at home doesn’t mean you’d be able to care for a child and work at the same time.  Most people can’t.  What happens if you’re supposed to be conferencing into a meeting and your baby starts crying?  What if you decide you don’t LIKE being a SAH mom for 2-3 days a week.  What if HE wants to stay home instead?  You can’t answer these questions until the theoretical future child actually exists.  Go for your dream job, you very rarely get second chances like this.  Go and rock the interview, get the offer and take it! 

Post # 13
2091 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would take my dream job. It is sooo hard to find your dream job! Plus, with over 35k extra a year, childcare will be not a big deal… I love the sound of your current job, and I would jump at the chance for that kind of job, but if you don’t do it, you may become resentful of those future children and your husband. Nobody likes the whole “what if” scenario… Plus, since you have fed experience if all else fails you can go back to that. Reach for your dreams! 

Post # 14
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

definatly take your dream job!! If its come up, and its all falling into place, then definatly do it! how many people in their life can honestly say they landed their dream job? If kids arent in the picture now, then i dont see the issue. You never regret the chances you did take, only the ones you didnt ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
3052 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

dream job for sure. ESP since it happens to also come with a pay increase. Good lucK!!

Post # 16
1511 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@adoc86:  I would, without a doubt, take the dream position if it’s offered.  You can’t base any current decisions on “what ifs” regarding children (or anything else, for that matter).  It’s also worth mentioning that if you’re working full-time, you’re most likely not going to have a lot of free time to watch your kid while you’re on the clock.  I obviously don’t know the ins and outs of your daily work, but I can’t imagine you’d have time to take care of a child and complete your work (and do both well!).

You’ll figure something out if and when you have children.  If you get a significant raise, childcare may not even be a major issue (at least not where cost is concerned).  Don’t focus on that so much right now … Just focus on rocking your interview!

Good luck!  Keep us posted!

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