(Closed) take the house or keep my sanity…? rant

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
2223 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I wouldn’t take the house. My mother made a similar offer but we chose to save & buy our home ourselves (+ 200k mortgage). I’d rather earn something than receive a gift with strings attached. You should thank your dad for his generous offer but explain you want it to be yourown.

Post # 4
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You kinda answered your own question, I would not take the offer of the home, you already are completely unhappy with how the events of taking the house as a wedding gift will unfold.

The first adult thing you and your fiance do is Save for your own home while staying with your inlaws and buy YOUR own house. This way nobody can hold over your head the fact that they GAVE you a house. However you still can help take care of your father, as you should, just not with the leverage of a FREE HOME over your head.

Post # 6
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When I got married my father offered me his house. I know the benefits of being a homeowner are great, as are the benefits of being a young homeowner who was given a home at no expense, but, like you, there were some other situational problems I knew would be coming along with the house. 

I didn’t take the house, we got an apartment instead. For me, it was not worth the possible headaches. I think you pretty muched summed up for yourself all the reasons why you shouldn’t take it. 

I will admit I felt guilty turning it down though, and I don’t know if that’s something that you have felt also but in the event that you have I’m here to tell you that you shouldn’t. Making dicisions that benefits you and your SO the most is simply your responsibilty to yourselves as a couple, and that’s what I told my dad. If you don’t think that is the most beneficial to you guys then you probably shouldn’t do it. 








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