Post # 1
After finding a venue I really like, my father told me that I don’t HAVE to use the money he is giving me for my wedding and that I can use it for something else. A part of me doesn’t really believe him and thinks that maybe he is just offering it as an option but would be upset if we took it. HOWEVER the other part of me (the frugal and practical side that usually dominates) wants to just have a really small wedding and use the money to pay off debt, then take a small honeymoon somewhere.
I would really appreciate ANY advice!
Post # 3
If i had to do it all over again (and if FH agreed with me) I would have taken the money and ran! Had a small JOP wedding with a small dinner at a local restaurant and saved the rest for a honeymoon and other stuff.
I think you should talk with your FH about what you both envision for your wedding. If he wants to go with the small wedding/save money route, then talk with your dad and let him know that you’ve elected to put the money to good use by paying off your debt instead of spending it on one day.
If FH wants the bigger event, then push all doubts aside, pull your budget together and book the venue you love.
Post # 4
I am going to close this post because it is a duplicate. There are other responses here.