Post # 1
Eversince my partner and I bought a new home with a huge lawn that our dog can run laps around, people with kids or dogs seem to think that we don’t have anything to do on weekends and have the room to put their kids or dogs at our place for a day or two.
I guess whenever they talk about their kids or dogs, I’m enthusiatic in asking questions and showing interest, but that doesn’t mean I want to look after them!
I just had to rant about it after relenting to a work colleague wanting to go on a holiday for a week and to leave his Husky puppy with us. At first I was fine with it since I only need to give it food and water. However being responsible, I made mention that he bring food, toys, leash, bedding, etc…but on the day, he came with JUST the dog. He came really late at night and he was flying out the next morning so obviously we had to buy everything the dog needed to survive the week. His dog eats 3 times more than our dog and dug up holes all over the lawn. 🙁
How do you make excuses or deal with on-the-spot situations like this?
Post # 3
Find a good kenel and recommend it to all your friends and family. For the kids just make up plans for that night like dh and I have tickets to a show and just can’t miss it.
Post # 4
Wow I hope that dog owner paid you back at least! I’d just say you can’t watch the dog or kid when you’re asked. Say you have other plans. If you say no enough times, people will get the hint.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
I have a friend with a very high strung dog. My golden is chill. I just told her that I didn’t want to handle both of our dogs at once (we’ve watched a little doodle, which was a totally different story). A perceptive person wouldn’t push.
Set the boundary now…there might be more dogs waiting in the wings!
Post # 6
It’s rude for anyone to invite their pets and/or kids over to your house. When someone approaches you about it, just say no. Don’t give excuses, apologies, or explanations. Be polite but firm. If someone gets offended by a simple NO, then it’s probably not worth being close to someone with so little respect for you and your time/money. Setting boundaries is important, otherwise people will walk all over you!
Post # 7
Cave, and start your own dog sitting venutre?
LOL just kidding! I think you just need to be firm and set the standard. It’s okay to do favors , especially in exchange for someone watching your dog, but if you do it all the time without really wanting to people only see the part about you doing it- so they assume its an option!
Post # 8
Come up with a few ‘pat’ answers, so you don’t feel like you are put on the spot with nothing to say!
“I’m sorry, I’m unable to watch Fido for you”
“I’m sorry, it won’t be possible; I know of a great dog-sitter – would you like their info?”
Post # 9
“I’d LOVE to look after your kids! You know, funny story, I looked after my other friend’s kids last week and one of them ran away and was missing for like, 6 hours. I didn’t even notice! The police came and everything!! But yes, again, I would LOVE to look after your kids!!”
Post # 10
@Eva Peron: The dog hotel comment will be my next joke if anyone asks the second time…hahaha.
@redheadem: Yet to see any money from him! Didn’t even get a thank you from his fiance when she came to pick up the dog. Guess this is one couple to cut off.
Thanks for all the ideas! Starting with the “sorry, not free’ from this weekend!
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My advise? Have a neutral answer when people ask “What are you doing this weekend (or whatever date they ask)?” When people ask that, they may be wanting to obligate you for something. That is a totally different question than, “Can you watch my dog on the weekend of August XX?” or “Want to come to dinner on August XX?” I had to learn that the hard way myself.
A neutral answer could be “We have some plans for the weekend, but why do you ask?
You sound really nice and not-so-nice people can take advantage of that. Best wishes.