- 2 years ago
- Wedding: City, State
Bee, everything about this guy is pure and utter nonsense. Had the amount of time and energy you threw away on this nit been properly invested, you could have been out on three dates with a quality man by now; or on three first days with three different quality men.
Instead, you felt compelled to tap the intelligence arm of the Bee, in hopes that we could dissect and analyze the flake’s behavior. And, to what end, Bee?
In the service of you being able to figure out a way to make him want to ‘hang out’?
What does that even mean? Is that something that is supposed to pass for an actual date when you’re willing to set your expectations low?
The guy’s last text was idiotic. Some silliness about GOT, but, you don’t watch GOT, ok, maybe in six months you’ll be caught up on GOT? Oh yeah. There’s relationship material.
A PP mentioned that some people will maintain contact over a mild interest. This is true. I will take it a step further. Plenty of guys will have sex over even less than just a mild interest. Don’t lose sight of that.
The other Bees are also exactly right about having plans to stay home alone—those are completely legitimate plans. There is nothing at all wrong or gamey about turning down a short notice invitation for a man or from your women friends because you planned to stay home with Netflix or a good book.
It’s quite healthy. If we’re jumping at invitations, no matter how insultingly last minute they may be proffered, that’s a statement about how much we fear not being asked again. The kind of man you want to attract respects the reality that your life is full. He’ll try again, with a bit more attention to his timing. He respects the value of your time.
I’m really struggling, Bee, to figure out exactly what this guy ever did right.