(Closed) Taking a break.

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

(((((lalalalinzii))))

Post # 5
Member
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry. It does suck. But you are doing the right thing. Don’t think of the wedding so much. Focus on your relationship and enjoy the time now. Even when I stopped talking about engagement/wedding, I still came here to vent frustrations and read. It kept me from bugging Fiance about it. 

Post # 6
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know it’s tough!  Just try to come up with a hobby or volunteering to keep yourself busy and get your mind of it.  It will come I’m sure but it’s better to not be thinking about it when it does!

Post # 7
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667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

*hugs* I hate waiting as well and I was highly disappointed when it didn’t happen yesterday. Some days, you Bees are the only thing keeping me frpm going completely insane. I can understand not wanting to be here to so much but I do hope you do drop by and visit sometimes. Don’t forget to let us know when he does propose.

Post # 9
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3305 posts
Sugar bee

*hugs* I bet he is just trying to throw you off. Come around when you need an ear.

Post # 10
Member
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Sorry are felling so bad.  I am too.  We are all in the same boat.  The ups and downs of waiting really suck!!

Post # 11
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362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Taking a step back isn’t a bad thing to clear your mind but don’t stop coming here and getting the friendship of us Bee’s. We are always here to listen and help. If you ever need anything we are/will be here for you. (((HUGS)))

Post # 12
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1645 posts
Bumble bee

I’m a horrible person for saying this, but someone has to present the practical side, here. What if he’s telling the truth and he’s really not ready yet? I’m waiting too and sometimes I get annoyed with not knowing WHEN he’s wanting to do it, but you have to respect his needs, too. People should get engaged when BOTH parties are 100% ready, not because one of them is just plain tired of waiting. I don’t think it’s nearly as catastrophic as we treat it sometimes. You have him. He loves you. He wants to propose to you. And when he is ready to do that (we treat it too lightly, I think. It’s a HUGE DEAL) he WILL do that! You wouldn’t want him to propose to you to shut you up, would you? You would want him to really mean it. 

I know I’m rambling a bit but the holidays are still happening and I’m seeing a whole lot of expectations happening. Bees posting about breaking down and sobbing and wondering why it hasn’t happened yet. It makes me sad. Enjoy your relationship. Be confident in it. This is something I’ve been getting better at. My SO loves me. I know this. I know that he wants to marry me, and when we’re there we will be there.

 

I’m going to get into trouble for this I just know it. :/

Post # 13
Member
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MissHoneyBun: Your points are valid! I was a waiting bee up until just two weeks ago and I was soooo guilty for placing too much focus on the proposal instead of on my amazing relationship! I think tough love isn’t always a bad thing! 🙂

Post # 14
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1405 posts
Bumble bee

@MissHoneyBun:  I agree 100%!  He said he wasn’t ready.  He also said he could get the ring.  Makes me think he does not have it yet.

Post # 15
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9 posts
Newbee

Waiting seriously sucks.  Why do they put us through this?

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