(Closed) Taking a collection during wedding mass?

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it would make me feel a little uncomfortable

Post # 4
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Meh, I think you should make a donation as a couple if you’d like to give the church something…

Post # 5
9095 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

If a collection plate was passed to me at a wedding, I’d find it incredibly uncomfortable. If you want a donation, ask for it instead of gifts beforehand.

Post # 7
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I personally wouldn’t think anything of it, if you were having a full mass.  But I know that there are probably plenty of others that would feel uncomfortable with it.

Post # 8
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Personally I would donate myself (as the bride and groom) to the church and not have the collection. None of the many catholic weddings including full masses have ever passed the plate.

Also I think it would be an awkward moment for any non-catholic guests.

Post # 9
7642 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Agree with everyone else, it’s not really appropriate. Also, it would add several minutes to the length of the ceremony, which isn’t desirable. (I’m Protestant but the issues are the same).

Post # 10
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

we are doing a full mass but no offereing.  i don’t think i’d like it if i was at a wedding that did that.

Post # 11
9816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m not religious and would feel awkward about not contributing. Best to save that for actual masses where people are voluntarily attending a religious service and not going out of support for a couple getting married.

Post # 12
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Yeah, I agree with the previous posters. Collection plates at a wedding mass are a big no-no.

Post # 13
1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it would be uncomfortable. Not many people expect to dish out cash at a wedding so they may not even bring any. And have you ever been approached by an organization needing money and you don’t have any on you, only a credit card? Very uncomfortable.

Post # 14
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I don’t think this is a good idea.  Guests may think this is a collection for you guys and not for the priests, especially guests who are not religious.  I think a better idea is to make a donation yourselves instead.

Post # 15
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m with everyone else on this one.  I think it may make your guests uncomfortable – especially since they may not have brought appropriate change to a wedding. Plus, they have already traveled to be with you and brought you a gift. It just seems like asking a bit much IMO.

Post # 16
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i don’t think this is a very good idea. not being religious, i would be uncomfortable and feel awkward. also, i normally don’t bring money to weddings unless i know it’s going to be a cash bar.

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