Post # 1
Hi Bees. My Fiance and I are thinking of moving to a new city early next year. He will get a job right away and does not want to take more than a couple weeks off in between jobs, but as for me, I (1) will probably take a longer time finding something than him due to the nature of my job and (2) just want to take a few months off to reset/do things around the house/ponder a career change/spend time with family. I’m wondering how much time I can possibly take off to casually “look for jobs” (but not too hard) without it looking sketchy on my resume. Is six months too much? If you were a hiring manager, would a resume gap raise any red flags for you? If an applicant was honest and said they took time off just to recharge (as opposed to taking time off to pursue an amazing opportunity), would you automatically think “this person is lazy, let’s not hire her”? Is this a common thing to do? I do want a break, but not at the expense of screwing myself over later.
Post # 2
You don’t need to make up anything to explain the gap in your resume.
“We moved for my husband’s work”. It’s not unusual to have difficluty finding a job after a move.
It’s not something I would choose to do myself, because I would be afraid that by the time I was ready to enter the work world again, an amazing opportunity may have passed me by.
Post # 3
I think 6 months is fine, especially after a move. You don’t need to explain that short of a gap. Once you hit a year, though, you may have a harder time.
Post # 4
I personally think 6 months is too long. My employer questions anything longer than 3 months. When they go through applications for positions like mine, they separate out those that have large gaps in employement for reasons other than getting laid off.
Post # 5
six months is perfectly fine. It is common for people to take some time off to recharge, work on their house, reassess their career etc. My fiancé often only works for 6-9 months of the year then has a break to recharge, because he enjoys working in different environments and switching jobs. Many, many women are stay at home mothers and housewives for some years then return to work. Your health and wellbeing is so much more important than a minimal gap in your résumé. In this work centred world many people will tell you differently, but what’s most important is how you feel. Will you look back on your life wishing you’d had a 3 month gap rather than 6? I highly doubt it! Wishing you all the best 🙂
Post # 6
julies1949: uponthewaters: redmango: minta:
Thanks for your responses, ladies! The responses seem split between “it’s not a great idea / six months is too long” and “taking time off is not a big deal.” I agree with many of you that the timing will probably work in my favor, being that I would be coming off of a move. Maybe I’ll take two to three months and see how it goes. I don’t want to go on too long being completely financially dependent on my husband-to-be, because as much as I love and trust him, I’m not comfortable being free with money someone else has earned…so that is also a consideration.
Post # 7
If your husband is going to be starting a busy job as soon as you move to your new place, I agree it’s nice to be off to be around to coordinate the relocation. I think you’ll see how things go, and the timing will decide itself. I like your general plan of planning for 2-3 months and then re-evaluating. I personally would go crazy being out of work for 6 months, especially if you’re accustomed to being busy at work.
Post # 8
If you can afford to take some time off then go for it! Especially, after moving, it’s very stressful. I wish I could have taken like a month off when I moved from an apartment into a house with my fiance. There was just something every night after work and I was exhausted (unpacking, painting, going through and donating or trashing items I didn’t need any more, organizing, laundry, etc). My fiance also travels and has really crazy hours for work so a lot of it was on my own.
As far as your resume, since you are moving cities I think you have a perfectly valid excuse and no reasonable employer would judge a gap of up to 6 months.
If I were you, I’d take a couple of months off!
Post # 9
I’ve been in staffing for a long time. Honestly, I’m off work now casually looking for a part-time position (works better with my DH’s schedule and we were doing some major house remodeling). Go for it. I did and I work in HR!
Post # 10
I personally would choose 3-4 months off. It’s enough time to get settled in a new city, do stuff around the house and browse for new jobs. But I think any longer I would start to feel bored and unproductive.
Post # 11
I don’t think a 6 month gap (even a year gap) would surprise anyone since you are moving to a new city. Sometimes when companies lay people off they agree to leave their bio up on the company’s website, etc. to make it easier for the people to find another job. Depending on your current job, maybe they could do something like that to help you out.
Post # 12
I think you’ll be fine taking time off. However, you may want to be looking while you’re enjoying that time, since you have no idea how long it may take you to find a job that interests you.
I relocated due to marriage, and it took me four years to find a job in my field. However, I also was at a high level in my career and moved from a much more expensive job market to a small town in a very rural area of another state where the salaries are much lower, and no one even wanted to talk to me because I previously made too much money. Initially, I was performing consulting work for my former employer through another company; however, that dried up due to an economic issue affecting that niche industry.
In hindsight, having that time off was essential to my transition from being a never-married career person who lived in a major metropolitan area to being married, becoming a pastor’s wife, being the stepmother to multiple kids and adjusting to an area that is dramatically different than the one I had lelft. It also allowed me to recover from years of working long hours, having a long-distance relationship, planning a wedding while working more than full time hours, selling and buying houses, and working from and commuting between two states for almost the entire first year of our marriage. I am very thankful to have had the break.
I am very blessed to have the job that I now have in this new region, because there are very few of these opportunities here. As with all of my other positions throughout my career, I attribute my hiring first and foremost to divine intervention as well as my having an excellent resume and work ethic.
Post # 13
- Wedding: Breckenridge, CO
I just did something similar. I was a teacher for 5 years and got so burned out and got a 9-6 office job + I was an adjunct professor on weekends. I loved adjuncting but my schedule was EXHAUSTING
After we got engaged my fiancé said he’d support us and I could quit the office job and just adjunct. I teach 2 classes now 3 mornings a week. The semester hasn’t even started yet and we moved about 3 weeks ago so I did the bulk of that settling in work. It was so nice to get the house in order after a move.
If y’all can afford it I 100% recommend it! I love it 🙂 I’m happier, I’m not gone from 8-7 and exhausted when I get home, the house is SPOTLESS, I make great healthy meals that he loves so he’s happy too!
I don’t have the gap in the resume though because I am continuing adjuncting at the community college. You could volunteer or find something part time just to have on your resume although for only 6 months I wouldn’t worry about it
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
I don’t think six months would be too long of a gap, but I would make sure that you and your Fiance have a very candid discussion about it before the move. If it isn’t discussed and he’s assuming that you’re going to get a job as quickly as possible, it could lead to a lot of friction in the relationship.
Post # 15
Six months is right on the cusp of being too long. I would mention it in a cover letter. I tend to get nervous around that mark, new city or not (I’m in HR).
I would probably start job searching around the 2 month mark, you never know how long it can take you to find the right job.