(Closed) Taking A Honeymoon Somewhere You Have No Interest In

posted 6 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Scenario: FI wants to go somewhere on a honeymoon that you have no interest in. Would you:

    Go ahead and go. You will make the guy super happy, and making him happy would make you happy

    Discourage it, but keep the option open and start pricing it out

    Go somewhere inexpensive and local to just "take a honeymoon" and continue saving for the dream trip

    Save your money and see what you want to see when you can afford it

  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    a honeymoon should be a place you both agree on.  there are plenty of amazing places you can go on a budget.  look at groupon and other discount websites. 

    DH did a lot of research for our honeymoon.  we booked a 2 week trip to italy that i thought was reasonable.  we used europeandestinations.com after another friend recommended it to us.  it was 1/3 the cost of using a travel agent.  we plan to use this site again for our next eurpean trip, spain here we come…(in the next few years)

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee

    Because of his career, my Fiance has spent a lot of time in tropical locations, or places with lots of sand. I’m a big scuba diver. Because he’s been almost EVERYWHERE (military) he doesn’t want to go to half the places I still want to go to. He’s very stubborn, and said if I want to go to x place, I can go alone.

    But! He also is interested in lots of other neat places. Albeit they don’t meet my “scuba requirements” but they offer a nice break, and some beautiful scenery.

    Try to find a FEW things about this place that you could get behind. If it’s somewhere you can’t imagine being able to have fun, then tell him. But if there’s at least one thing you’d like to see (a certain type of animal you can only see there, or an outdoor activity) then maybe think about it.

    I think you’re sounding a little high maintenance about this, but honestly, this is his vacation too.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would go. In our relationship I have way more wanderlust than my husband so if he actually brought up a place he wanted to visit, I’d be really excited about it. That being said, can you compromise? Do a small trip to the place your fiance wants to go and then another few days somewhere that you’d like?

    We originally wanted to go to Hawaii but it ended up costing too much and stressing me out. So we did 4 nights in Catalina instead and really enjoyed ourselves. I had to let go of the 2 week/10 day honeymoon expectation I had built up in my mind but in the end was very happy with our decision.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee

    Definitely not! It’s your honeymoon — you should both be really excited! What about doing a local B&B for a cheap “minimoon” right after the wedding, then taking a trip you’re both excited about a few months/a year later? You could even make it a one year anniversary honeymoon, if it takes a full year to save.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    If you have zero interest, don’t go.  I would just keep brainstorming and talking about other potential destinations.  Surely there is somewhere that you can both get excited about?  On our own, my husband and I would probably choose totally opposite places for a vacation, but we came up with a honeymoon we both were super excited about.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    How bad is this place? I’m curious!

    I agree with PP that you should both be excited about your honeymoon.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    It’s your honeymoon – you should both be excited about it. I think you should assure him that you guys can take this other trip later since it’s somewhere he really wants to go (or encourage him to find someone else to go there with who will get more out of it) but I don’t think you should take a trip that should have meaning to a place you have no interest in. You guys have the rest of your lives to take this other trip but you only get one honeymoon.

    I’m also of the mind that it’s a much better idea to wait and save the money for the destination you really want to visit instead of spending money for a local/closer destination just to say you took a honeymoon. Wait a little longer and save up for what you BOTH truly want – it will be much more exciting than a consolation trip.

    Also seriously, where is this place you don’t want to go? Now I’m really curious.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    moviegoer23:  I wouldn’t do any of the poll options. I’d find somewhere we would both enjoy that’s within our current budget. Surely out of all the places on the entire planet, there must be one that fits those criteria.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think for me it would depend. If I had my heart set on Italy and he really wanted to go to Greece- I would probably give in. If he was gunning for Siberia, it would be a NO.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I agree. You both should be excited not just him. I don’t knoiw what the place is but maybe there is a compormise?

    My fiance always comes up with weird places to go when we travel that are unrealistic. I just le thim research them until he realizes it doesnt make sense and i dont have to say a word.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think for me it would depend. If I had my heart set on Italy and he really wanted to go to Greece- I would probably give in. If he was gunning for Siberia, it would be a NO.

    This is how I would feel too. It really depends on the place IMO. Where does he want to go?

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

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    moviegoer23:  Isn’t the entire point of a honeymoon spending time with your new hubby???  We could go stay at the local Motel 6 for 4 nights and I would LOVE IT because it would be us spending time together as newlyweds.  That being said, will he want to go sightseeing and do things you don’t want to go do?  If that’s the case, and you would be staying at home, I would recommend you guys decide on something else, together.  And save this trip of his for later in to your marriage.

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    No I wouldn’t. I don’t like doing anything just for the sake of doing it.

    I think you should both be excited about your honeymoon.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    Where is this place? I agree that you should both agree. But that being said, why not spend few days there and few days somewhere else.  

    We are doing asia and I have no interest in japan but since Fiance wants to go then we will do 5 days there and 2 weeks in other countries. 

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