(Closed) taking a “sick” day?

posted 10 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Worker bee

Actually I’m doing this on Friday with my Fiance. We are both taking personal days to get the marriage certificate, taste our food and taste our cake. The vendor food tasting was only on wk days between 11-3. So we knew that we would have to miss some work and decided to take the whole day off and get more done! It’s so hard to do it all on the wknds!

Don’t feel quilty at all! That is why people give you sick/personal and vacation days! You gotta use them sometimes right!? In my mind I would feel more quitly if I was just sitting on the couch that day. But hopefully you will get a lot done!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

i have over a month of sick days that i will lose when i leave my job (relocating after wedding), yet i feel incredibly guilty about calling in. I have very little vacation time. in fact, i am just climbing out of the hole with my vacation time after the winter holiday season.

even though i feel guilty, i know i will be calling in here and there if nothing but to rest since i commute over an hour too work each way.

i’ve been taking advatange of the days that my directors have been out of the office. There are 6 more scheduled days that they will be on the road, so I am trying to get as many things done during this time as possible. 2 of those days are this week! I’ve got to get cracking on a cake.

i’m also taking a sick day for my lil brother’s high school graduation.  I dont have the time to take and missing his graduation is not an option.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

The hard part about sick days, is that they are supposed to be used when you are actually sick.  I don’t get sick days but they understand that when you don’t feel good you should stay home.  So I always feel so guilty when I call and say I am sick.  Once I’ve made that call, I feel much better.  That is, until I go to work the next day!

But of course I use them when I need to, whether it for being sick or other daytime only events.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hehe … I’m infamous for using my sick days for personal reasons. As long as you’ve got the time and it doesn’t interfere with your actual job/put a burdon on co-workers use them!! Sometimes I felt guilty, but I normally got over it by the time I was done with my first cup of coffee. (=

p.s. – the first time my FH and I ever met/hung out was when we played hooky from work after a business meeting. We were supposed to go back to work, but opted for an early happy hour instead. I guess you could say that I’m pro-hooky!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

The thing is, your sick days are for just that – illness. If your sick days and your personal days are all out of the same pot, it doesn’t make any difference. If they’re not, then technically you’re committing fraud by telling your company you are too ill to work when you’re really shopping.  Depending on how strict they are about that, you can lose your job.

I’m lucky in that my company doesn’t mind me taking an extra hour at lunch, or leaving an hour early for a vendor meeting or to run some errands, as long as my work gets done on time.  That does mean that sometimes I meet with the florist at lunch and then have to come in on Saturday to keep a project on schedule.  But a big part of the reason that my boss is so flexible is that I’m just honest with him – I tell him that there is an appointment that I can’t schedule evenings or weekends, and he’s very accomodating.  I am sure that if I lied to him about my time, he wouldn’t be such a nice guy anymore.

I would really encourage you to try to be honest with your boss.  Maybe it’s possible for you to take a day without pay, or to borrow against future vacation.  Maybe as long as you only have to take a little extra time at lunch, or leave a little early, they are willing to look the other way, as long as you run it past them ahead of time, and the work still gets done.  It’s not that hard for your boss to plan around you being gone a day when he knows ahead of time.  It can be really hard on him, and on your co-workers (who have to do your work when you’re not there), when you just call in that morning to say you won’t be there. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I agree with Suzanno. I’m also using sick days for vacation/personal days, but I was upfront with my manager and told her at the beginning of the year what my plans for vacation were. I asked her if it was okay, and she was fine with it, but I think you’ll feel alot less guilty if you make your plans known.

Post # 9
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378 posts
Helper bee

I personally feel that sick and "mental health day" can be interchangable. If I don’t take a mental health day every once in awhile, I’ll get actually sick. And if I stress out about fitting meetings/apppointments/wedding-related errands in after work, I’m also going to get sick. So I think as long as you don’t abuse it, it’s fine. And my boss doesn’t care as long as it doesn’t effect my work. He takes a sick day when his kids are sick/at home/out of school for some reason. Right now I feel like the wedding is my kid.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

i don’t think there’s anything wrong with a mental health day! (as long as no clients or co workers are inconvenienced, waiting on you, etc)

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Haha, um…I did this just last week!  My wedding is 4000 miles away, so I have to take my entire 2 weeks vacation time for the wedding & honeymoon (I will basically have to do EVERYTHING the week before the wedding since I can’t do much from this far away.)  Therefore I have been getting a little stressed.  Last week I DID have a doctors appointment…but instead of just taking off the one or two hours for the appointment, I called in sick the whole day.  I ran all of the errands that have been hanging over my head and stressing me out.  I felt a *little* less guilty knowing that I actually did have to visit the doc, but not much.  All in all, I am glad I took the day, even if it really was more for my mental health than my physical health.  Now I can concentrate at work better knowing I have those things done!  🙂

Post # 13
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Worker bee

I can’t believe I saw this post – because I played hooky today!!  I rarely get sick so I have been known to use my sick days to get stuff done.  Today I ran around and got some shopping done for the wedding that I was supposed to do this past weekend – but those plans were changed by a surprise visit from my sister!!  Which is a good thing.  The only thing I really hate about doing this is when everyone starts asking me tomorrow how I’m feeling!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Technically, if you read your employer’s policy, it’s generally fine to use sick time for a doctor’s or dentists appt.  Also in most states, under the family leave policy, your employer must let you use sick time to care for an immediate family member who is ill.  So jma19, your boss is not actually cheating – the policy would also let you use sick time to care for a sick child, to take a parent or spouse to chemo or to care for them after surgery.  Just deciding that you’re too stressed about non-work stuff to go in is a different thing, and I do know several people who’ve gotten "caught" out golfing or skiing when they were supposed to be home with a cold or strep.  Funny, both of them got no raises last year, and complained like crazy.  Trust me, your boss knows, unless he/she is an idiot.  If your co-workers have to cover for you, they know too.  It will come back to haunt you one way or another.  Hopefully not when you need an extra day or two for your honeymoon, and your boss is looking at your absentee record for the year and trying to decide whether he feels like you deserve a little slack or not.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

All of my work is my own and no one covers for me. In my job I often work 70-80 hour work-weeks so I don’t feel bad about staying home, keeping my email window open on my laptop to respond to requests, turning on a CSI marathon and stamping my invites. I understand you don’t agree with this, but each of us have different jobs and I know that my raise will not be affected by taking a few hours off here and there, especially in my slower time of the year.

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