(Closed) Taking back Bridesmaids dresses after the wedding

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it ok to take back one of the two bridesmaids dresses?
    Yes its ok : (23 votes)
    30 %
    No its rude : (51 votes)
    67 %
    Other - refer to comments : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @HB Girl:  sorry Im a little confused. Are you saying you want to take the floor length dresses back after the wedding (like after they use them) or now? I think taking dresses back if the store will let you is totally fine as long as they havent been used yet

    Post # 5
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    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s a little unconventional, but I suppose with all the other things you are paying for (and since you’re buying the gown) it’s not out of the question.

    Post # 6
    Member
    364 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    i think she means taking the dresses back from the girls themselves, so the bride can resell them to someone else and recoup part of the cost

    Post # 7
    Member
    1278 posts
    Bumble bee

    If I were a Bridesmaid or Best Man and the bride bought the dress, I would assume that it is a gift and I would be very confused.  But, if it is your money, I guess you can do what you want.  The girls might not know what to think about it though.

    Post # 9
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    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    No, I would not ask for the long dresses back. I would probably just buy the one dress in this case, rather than buying them two and asking for one back at the end of the wedding.

    If I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would find it odd if the bride asked for the dress back after I had worn it. I would give it back of course, but I’d still find it quite an odd request.

    Post # 10
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Agreed with all the other posters. Its really super nice that you’re buying them not just one, but two gowns. So generous! But unfortunately you probably shouldn’t ask for one back. Instead, what if they paid for their own shoes and you didn’t do the robe? You could also buy them nail polish but not pay for their manicure. You could also certainly just purchase the one dress – 2 dresses is probably not necessary. My girls are all wearing floor length gowns as well, but they’ll be fine in them on the dance floor 🙂

    By the way, great choice of makeup 🙂 I just ordered Chanel nail polish for each of my girls (like literally 20 minutes ago). Im excited about it! Good luck to you!

    Post # 11
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    1095 posts
    Bumble bee

    While I think that it’s super generous of you to pay for all your bridesmaids dresses and that in theory you should be able to do with them as you please; in practice, I think it would be rude to ask them to give them back. I agree with the poser above, maybe ask them to pay for their Hair and Makeup instead, I think thats very fair!

    Post # 12
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    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If the girls are not going to wear the long dresses ever again, I don’t think it would be a problem if they gave them back… at least they’re not taking up space in someone’s closet. I certainly would not want to keep a floor length gown!

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    23620 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I really don’t think that it’s a problem to take the long dresses back, particularly if you were the one who paid for them.

    Post # 14
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    2616 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    if you take back the dress after they used it –meaning tags are off. it is rude and store will probably not accept them. ( there was a girl in high school who bought 5 prom dresses and return all them after she had dance,ate and sweat in them she left the tag on purposely to return them once she was done…

    Post # 15
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    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @Vera Girl:  agreed!

    If it’s a cost issue then just don’t buy a second dress for them. Or if you must have 2 bm dresses, find a place that allows you to rent dresses so you can cut costs that way.

    Post # 16
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    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Selling the dresses might be more challenging than expected, and I doubt you’d get more than $150 per dress. You’re being incredibly generous in what you’re gifting the bridesmaids- you could cut out half of that. No one expects two bridesmaid dresses, so I think you’re better off just buying one. It does seem like an odd request- you’re gifting it, then asking for them back.

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