(Closed) Taking former anniversary into account?

posted 7 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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Honey bee

I am not an encore bride but I have a thought on this.

Usually someone avoids a date because they want to respect it. Like someone elses wedding, birthday, holiday etc.

Are you trying to show respect to your old anniversary? To me its a marriage that did not work, despite how well or not well it ended and therefore it no longer holds weight in current decisions.

I could understand not wanting to get married on the same day (bad memories/luck whatever), but I think the same month or even near the same day would be fine.

The date should be a date that works for you two.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We took that into consideration.  My first wedding was in October (which I love) and his was in September so I knew those were out.  My first alternate was July but we ended up with December for logistical reasons.

But yeah, I would have felt weird getting married again in the same month as my first marriage.  I like the idea of starting fresh:)

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

To be honest, I never even thought of it….. hmmmm- i’m going to have to ask my sweetie (he is an encore too) if it was a consideration for him…

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

First wedding was in February, 2nd time was in October.  I think I would have avoided the whole month of the first anniversary… but thats just me.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

ha ha this is a brill post as it caused me all kinds of headaches. my 2nd wedding will be 20 years and 18 days after the first one.

i so did not want august so as to not rub my daughters fathers (my ex) nose in it as she will be our Maid/Matron of Honor and there is a big age gap between me and FI 

 

BUT i also need a summer wedding due to my disability and i have a number of children in the wedding party so we went for summer holidays next year

 

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What’s funny is my Fiance and I started dating on the same date as me and my ex-husband.  Their birthday’s are also close too.  I’m taking it as I was supposed to meet the right one on that date, just got the year wrong! LOL

 

Fiance and I just got engaged and decided on an Oct 5th wedding in 2012.  Married my ex in August.  I will never do a summer wedding again.  Way too hot and sticky.

 

Congrats!  I don’t think getting married close to the first one’s date is a problem.  Good luck!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Actually, I got married a couple weeks after the date from my first marriage.  I wanted to avoid it, but it just ended up that it was the best time of year for us to do it. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

It occurred to me, after we’d settled on our date, that it was within a week of my 2nd wedding date (which was also, due to court scheduling, our divorce date). But we picked this date because of it being the anniversary of our first date and we’ll stick with it. The past will fade (and I’m the only one who really remembers it and only at times).

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Funny – it was a big deal to me that I didn’t get maried on the same day as the first go round but I never asked him what his anniversary was.  Now I don’t think I want to know …

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m thinking this question wasn’t meant for widows, but yes, I would work around my wedding anniversary.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Aye, orginally I told him June was out of the question, but it ended up being the best option, so we just made sure the previous date wasn’t the same and didn’t worry about it further.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wasn’t married but when I was engaged previously we booked the church for October. So when my Fiance proposed to me he said we can get married any month besides October. I think he cared about that more than I did but that’s also because my ex was bothering us at the time. My Fiance was married too before and it was either in June or July I didn’t ask but he doesn’t care about that one as much as my ex and I’s wedding date.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Didn’t purposefully avoid it and obviously we didn’t put a huge amount of thought into the date at all, we picked the same day as my first just a different month. I have no clue what his old anniversary is.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m not an encore, but Darling Husband is. In some ways I wish I didn’t know his first wedding’s date, but I’m one of those people who has to pick at things, so I asked when we were newly dating. Now, I’m the one who always remembers the date when it rolls around! lol! He says he doesn’t think of it anymore.

It was easy for me to avoid August as a wedding month for us, because I never wanted a summer wedding. Even if I had though, I would have avoided it. It just seems like bad mojo.

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