Post # 16
depends on the wedding and the situtation… its actually slightly less common in my circle lately since people have been doing more rentals/extravagant things. If its like a giant candelabra that is 4 ft tall usually no one would touch it but when its just a floral arrangement in like a plastic or clear glass container 99.9% of the time I would assume it was up for grabs (but I would wait until the music was over and lights were on to actually grab it).
Usually in my circle the “older” aunts and grandmothers usually get first dibs and then anything left after that anyone can claim vs having the dollar game/closest birthday type things that use to happen when I was a kid
Also with semi-destination wedding being so common usually its now more of a what are we going to do with all these flowers vs people fighting over taking them home since most people don’t want to deal with carrying it to the hotel and then home the next day (but I am usually willing bc I LOVE fresh flowers but I’m too cheap to buy nice ones!)
Post # 17
It’s fairly common in my southwestern corner of the US.
BUT– The DJ or wedding planner typically makes an announcement, or it spreads through word of mouth. My friend’s wedding had a lot of flowers left over, and her mom was pushing us to take them home because she didn’t want the flowers to go to waste.
Post # 18
White, African-American and Indian are not social classes, they are races.
Post # 19
Yes VERY common here on the East Coast, more like expected. All the woman at table usually fight over who’s getting it lol
Post # 20
Common on the East Coast US but it’s usually announced as PP’s have said. We don’t plan on announcing ours as up for grabs because my Fiance spent hours hand crafting these beautiful cedar wood pieces that we plan to use in our home after. We will give extras to our close family members (all of his 5 brothers want one). If I see people just taking them without asking, I would be PISSED lol. I think that’s a little rude.
Post # 21
Haha, I’m Mexican but I’m happy people will take them – less stuff to clean up at the end of the night.
It sometimes turns into a battle, which I don’t want – “I was sitting here first, so it’s my centerpiece!”
Post # 22
I’m in the north east. I think it’s very common at more casual, lower cost parties. Showers, birthdays, anniversaries, retirements, etc. People loooooove taking centerpieces. But I’ve never in my life seen it happen at a formal party or a wedding.
Post # 23
Haha it’s an Asian thing too. I told a few people in advance that they could take the centerpieces but please wait until the end of the wedding. I’d rather have people take them, otherwise the venue just throws them out. Mother-In-Law ended up taking like 8 centerpieces, lol.
Post # 24
My extended family is Polish, living in Ohio, and this is normal for us.
Post # 25
hahhaa yes this happens at Afghan weddings as well lol
they take the flowers at least if u tell them Plz don’t take the vases they are rentals ! Happened to me in my engagment party
and wedding im sure they will yet again take the flowers but they better not touch my candlebabras hahah
Post # 26
I’ve seen people make several trips in and out taking centerpieces. I’m going to be encouraging guests towards the end of the night to take some home with them as I’m going to be havings lots of smaller arrangements, and I really don’t want to pack them up at the end of the night. I’m going to wait until later in the night to have the announcement made though, since a lot of FI’s family tends to cut out of weddings right after dinner, and I would like them there for the majority of reception.
Post # 27
I plan on donating my flowers the following day to the local nursing homes that my grandparents were in before they passed away. I think the seniors will appreciate this much more than any of my guests!
Post # 28
It’s expected where I come from. What would you do with all those centerpieces if your guests didn’t take them?
Post # 29
I’ve never heard of taking centerpieces from a wedding unless explicitly told to do so (but even then, it was a b-day party, not a wedding!). I plan on selling my vases and mirrors after my wedding, so I would be really pissed if someone took them!
Post # 30
My grandfather used to this, and we aren’t Latino. We’re white as rice. He used to encourage other family members to help him haul out the centerpieces to his car, LOL. This was usually at close friends/family member’s weddings but it was still hilarious. He’d always pick the most inopportune times to start grabbing stuff. Like, he’d do it before anyone was really starting to wind down or before any announcement about the centerpieces was made. Once he was ready to leave, so was whatever else he wanted to grab! He was the type of man that did whatever he wanted whenever he wanted no matter what.