Taking new boyfriend to close friend's wedding

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
8531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

aquamarine22 :  Ask him but be prepared for him to decline (it might feel a bit too soon for him, it might not though!) 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

aquamarine22 :  ask, just make it clear that you’re okay with a ‘no’. I married my guy in that situation, I’m glad he was allowed to come and agreed to. 

Post # 5
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Newbee

My partner invited me to a wedding and we’d only been dating for a month, I was happy to go.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Definitely invite him. Yes, it has only been 1.5 months, but if you have talked about being exclusive, I would be really taken aback if he said no.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

You can invite him. I’d just be prepared to increase the amount of the gift you are giving. How far out is the wedding?

Have fun! Weddings are awesome, and it is so nice to have a date.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

If you are exclusively dating, I don’t see why he would say no. Go ahead and ask him!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Destination wedding might make a bit of a difference. Is this a six hour flight and several days off work? It might be a little early to ask a guy six weeks in to commit to a week vacation. If it was just a Saturday night my answer would be as above.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I’d go with your gut, but for me that would probably be too early. 

Have you done any weekends away yet, or would this be your first trip together? Has he met your friends (I know I introduced my boyfriend around the two  month mark, first weekend trip away was 2.5 months.

It’s hard because if the wedding is in a couple of months, that 5 days away together might be great, but you’ve got to get there first. My experience with dating has been the make or break time is around 3/4 months (my relationships have either been 4 months or under, or multiple years).

If it’s a destination wedding and he pulls out last minute, what are the repercussions for you re: costs?

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper

That’s different. I think it’s an imposition on close friends and family, let alone a stranger, to commit months in advance, take off multiple days, and spend money on transportation and accomodations that would otherwise be unnecessary. Not only would I not ask, I probably would not attend. 

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