Post # 1
Is anyone else really hurt about some of the people who RSVP-ed “no”? Also there are a huge amount of people who haven’t even sent theirs back…they are “due” tommorow. Regardless of the reasons behind the no’s and the mysteries, I am taking it all personally and I am really hurt (and even slightly embarrassed) about the low number of people coming! Even if all the verbal yes’s who haven’t formally responded actually come, we will still be paying for 11 extra meals! That’s about $1200!!!! We invited 165, and we only have a total of 109! And 13 of those are only verbal “yes’s”!!!
Post # 3
Oh honey, don’t worry! No one means it personally! Look on the bright side, now you can save all that extra money!
We’re on the opposite end. We expected about 75 people to RSVP yes, and it looks like we’ll be having about 90! So we’re hoping some people send in no’s even though our families have pretty much confirmed they’re coming. And now we also have to work in an extra $1K or so for food, and a couple more tables in a very small space, and it’s not fun.
I know it sometimes hurts when you get a no, but just keep in mind that the people who are there love and support you, and in the end, numbers really don’t matter.
Post # 4
People say no for all kinds or reasons, PLEASE don’t take it personally. Honestly, it will just make it possible for you to have more fun, and spend more time with each guests, making the whole day more personal. Enjoy that, as well as the cost savings.
Post # 5
I’m inviting 150 and praying only 100 show up. lol.
Post # 6
Oh, don’t take it personally! This happens all the time with weddings. You can’t please everyone and just remember it’s about the two of you 🙂
Do you have a B list? Use this as an excuse to invite people you would have liked to in the first place 🙂
Post # 7
dont worry about it; they probably have other plans; nothing personal
hey you’ll be saving money!
Post # 8
I’m actually hoping for more no’s, less money I have to spend, and the people that come are people who really want to be there!
Post # 9
We actually don’t get to the saving money point until at least 24 more people come! We are stuck paying for 120 regardless… 🙁
Post # 10
I was a bit dissapointed by some of the “No” responses. We invited some people from the B-list early on so that was nice. I’m a little annoyed that people didn’t RSVP “no” earlier b/c now it’s too late to invite more b-list people. We are going to start offering people dates if they want them.
We invited 280 (Lots of international, so we really only expected 220)
So far I’ve gotten 73% of them back and 140 people have accepted, if everyone who hasn’t replied yet says yes, we will be up to 190.
Oh, and our deadline is also tomorrow!
Post # 11
Oh yeah, we are paying for 200 dinners no matter what.
Post # 12
I know how you feel!!! I know I must not take it personally but it still bums me out 🙁 We’re planning an out-of-town wedding so I expected a higher incidence of no’s — but some of those no’s are coming from people who I thought would be the kind to “move heaven and earth” to be there… but not so much (I guess I’m the kind of person who would be the first on a plane for someone even if that means taking a redeye and going to work the next day. I know I can’t expect everyone to be that way. Oh well, I’m just trying to get over it 🙂
But just know that those people that will attend love you and will be there for you!!!